How to bail on a date?

PuroPincheGains · 2022-02-03T00:09:49+00:00

Don't. Shitty girls do that shit. Men with game do not. If you scheduled an obligation, be there. If you really have something else you need to do, just text her and tell her the truth. If you're just not that into her, just text her and tell her the truth. There's no way to make her more attracted to you by flaking, and yes that's what you will be, a flake.

labyrinthlilith · 2022-02-02T23:27:01+00:00

If texting has died down and you make yourself scarce you might not hear from her again. It’s so easy to ghost someone when all you’re doing is texting them.

Curious_Caterpillar- · 2022-02-03T07:28:50+00:00

Honestly, if you’re not feeling it, I think it’s best that you’re honest and communicative about it with her. In the long run she’ll appreciate your honesty (even if it hurts her a bit in the moment) and you’ll save face by keeping your integrity. Don’t resort to flaking and just stop it right there. Who knows, she may already be expecting that if texting has been dying down anyways. Don’t let fear be the driver during ambiguity.

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-02-03T00:52:16+00:00

She wouldn’t think twice flaking on you.

ksmith11011 · 2022-02-03T03:52:02+00:00

Have you been intimate with her at all yet? It’s normal for things to die down after an exciting milestone is reached. First dates included. It’s absolutely not a red flag of anything or a sign that things are going bad.

What I usually do when I’m uncertain and conversation seems to be slowing is I plan a date. You said you’ve got loose plans already, maybe try making them solid? Ask her on a dinner date to a nice restaurant. Use the word DATE.

If she demonstrates she’s clearly playing games or you see there’s another guy in the picture then you can do the pullback thing to try and get her hooked while you pursue other options. I wouldn’t want to do that if things were going well otherwise.

TheTruth221 · 2022-02-03T11:59:35+00:00

ask her that u want her to come over instead

she wont be ready to go over your place so she will say nah and make and excuse to not show up

now u have the upper hand

agbthegreat · 2022-02-03T07:54:38+00:00

Just say you got COVID lol

green632965 · 2022-02-02T23:31:49+00:00

is this a joke

jeg26 · 2022-02-03T03:06:05+00:00

Make yourself scarce? Sounds like some MDS bullshit. You made plans, you should commit to them. Want to increase attraction? Show up on time, have fun, be genuine. Show this person (and yourself) that you value your word and your time.

The only way “making yourself scarce” will make you more attractive is if this woman is incredibly desperate for validation. And you don’t want to be or be with that type of person.

sikes999 · 2022-02-03T04:22:37+00:00

"wait here, I'll be right back, watch my drink". Then run out with your phone to your ear.

And keep running.

Bin2Good · 2022-02-03T00:14:25+00:00

Call her up on the phone and explain.

homeslice567 · 2022-02-03T08:42:28+00:00

I'm confused, do you want to see her again? Or not see her again? Saying you want to increase her attraction to you but intentionally wanting to make yourself scarce seems contradictory? Or am I missing something

cronasminate · 2022-02-03T09:16:54+00:00

She’s most likely going to flake. This is why I rarely set dates that far into the future especially if she has no history of being reliable.

Canceling would actually be the good move here imo.

O7Rehvs · 2022-02-03T20:16:31+00:00

Just tell her you think you have Covid 😂

Title	How to bail on a date?
Author	Lost-Strawberry-5621
Upvotes	25
Comments	26
Date	February 2, 2022 11:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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