Need to improve inner game and start approaching

Straight-Tomorrow-99 · 2021-11-22T18:04:49+00:00

Oh, thats easy! You are pedestaliziing them. They are like spiders man. More scared of you than you are of them!

Straight-Tomorrow-99 · 2021-11-22T14:25:04+00:00

I dont like to give advice, only shine light. Usually social fears come from self-worth and id ask why you would be afraid to converse with another human. Are they a celebrity? Is there a big man with a big rock going to smash you over the head? If you get rejected will you get kicked out of the tribe?

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-22T14:23:24+00:00

Women have evolved to dream about a guy who thinks of himself and behaves like he is the shit. If you can start liking yourself to the point that you decide you are the shit, not just to get women interested in you, but because you like living your life like an alpha male, women will come easily. You will be doing them a favor by all reaching because you are the type of guy they have been dreaming about their whole life.

social_mastery · 2021-11-23T14:05:15+00:00

I've done Daygame consistently for 10 years straight man, and it's normal to still have a strong fear and anxiety of cold-approach a few months in. Depending on how much you go out.

It's very normal to worry about what girls will think about you. I wouldn't say you have inner game issues as much as you're just a normal human being.

However, I do recommend trying to talk to everyone and anyone, and use momentum to get comfortable speaking to girls, even girls in fashion stores and supermarkets to warm up with.

It's not so much that you have inner game problems as it is you just don't have that much experience doing it. Even guys that go out for a year or 2 still freeze up on occasion. I still sometimes get a little resistence.

It's normal. :)

Straight-Tomorrow-99 · 2021-11-22T18:05:46+00:00

Yes that is tough, I still have some social anxieties. You have to get a lot of reps in before you see noticeable results though!

Straight-Tomorrow-99 · 2021-11-22T18:07:39+00:00

Are you trying to come off non sexual but you feel aroused? That could send off some wierd vibes for them. Are you acting needy or goofy? Or are you acting comfortable in your own skin?

DoctorForesight · 2021-11-22T18:08:21+00:00

I'm kinda at this stage too. Start small by having an excuse to talk to them. Ask if there's a game store nearby or something like that. With retail employees you can pretend you're looking for something in the store. Once you get good at this, try turning it into a conversation.

lateahalligator · 2021-11-23T02:10:14+00:00

When you go out. Just approach the first girl with the stupidest thing you can think of. Nothing offensive. Just dumb. Something like, "Hey, I collect gas station souvenir mugs. Do you collect anytbing?". Example off top of my head. But just think of something that will make you laugh in your head. Do right away on your day game cold approaching. Most likely she will give you a bizarre look and then u can gracefully bow out, thank her for her time or even ask for number or whatever feel in moment. The thing here is to just get over the awkwardness boldly and early on. I have done this and it provided so much comedic relief in my head that my next cold approaches throughout the day were not scary and I was in a playful mood that I think helped. And a couple times I've actually got digits and lays from this b/c girl was so baffled and intrigued. This is only if you plan on approaching multiple girls on your outing. Not sure if you'll be able to do this if you are scared which is understandable but purposefully getting the awkwardness out of the way with one has helped me with the following approaches.

I_am_Jaguar · 2021-11-23T02:23:28+00:00

In my personal experience whenever I approach women I go with a state of mind of just talking. Just have your interntions clear. So they don’t sense any kind of weirdness. The women I approached I went out on a date and they all appreciated my action of coming to them. No game is also a game. Good luck!

Straight-Tomorrow-99 · 2021-11-23T04:12:24+00:00

Which is not their fault, so don't take it out on them!

Title	Need to improve inner game and start approaching
Author	swiftmartin
Upvotes	23
Comments	29
Date	November 22, 2021 1:46 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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