How do I start a conversation with someone and not sound boring?

cormacru999 · 2021-11-18T01:41:26+00:00

Yeah, I'm a great communicator & storyteller, & here are a few things to keep in mind.

Ask them about them, people do like talking about themselves, or if they don't, it can be easier to answer questions than for them to come up with what to say. But a key thing to do is to also offer into about yourself, so ask questions like - "My favorite bands are Tool & the original Blind Melon, but I like a lot of different kinds of music, what are you into?"

When they answer, you can often continue to discuss that subject for a bit. Then ask a new question. In dating especially, this is totally normal, you're supposed to be getting to know each other.

Do NOT try to slip in flirting or sex jokes, even if they say something that feels like an opening like "I just got out of the shower." If you hit it off, there's plenty of time for that once you know its welcome.

You should, as I say, talk about yourself in the sense that you offer info as you ask for info, like an even exchange, you are giving & asking, but you want to avoid getting stuck only talking about yourself. Of course if you have a good story to share, tell it, but afterwards, go back to asking about them.

Women especially hate when men just say Hey or Hi. Avoid talking about their appearance or how attracted you are to them, women have to constantly think about their appearance, so avoid that. Talk about their past, their hopes & dreams, about their family, about their work, about what they like to do, read? Watch movies? Etc. And remember to add often that you're asking but if they are not comfortable with that question, they are free to skip it.

I hope that's helpful to you.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-11-18T06:53:10+00:00

You won’t be boring if they’re interested. The thing about conversations is they’re a 2 way street. They fill in the gaps you leave and when it flows it’s beautiful. When you’re trying to force them to be interested you feel like a dumbass. Stay way from bitches making you feel like a dumbass.

mindless_scrolling27 · 2021-11-18T03:39:15+00:00

I find that when first meeting someone, there's always a bit of awkwardness and the standard "boring" questions. The where do you live, what do you do, what are your hobbies, etc. I think it helps to sound interested in what the other person is doing so it engages them. They may end up talking more about it and then it can lead to more questions.

I met my boyfriend on a dating app. He went axe-throwing and his profile pic was of his axe hitting the bullseye. I messaged him and asked what it was like to do it since I always wanted to. Somehow we ended up talking about books and we both like to read so we each took turns talking about books we've read. In the end, I think the key is getting past the awkward door to find that one interesting thing the other person will babble on about lol.

As a final note, if someone is really interested in you, they won't think you're boring. My boyfriend is, on average, not a very talkative person. That still doesn't mean I don't enjoy his company. What attracted me to him was his simple interest in how I was and the effort he put in to spend time with me. You're never boring to the right person even if you think you are ☺️

recyclablebanthas · 2021-11-19T02:47:03+00:00

I'm trying to prevent being ghosted. I just matched with someone on a dating app. Seems like Im ghosted or don't match. Any advice?

Nothing prevents being ghosted on an app. It's just not the same as meeting someone in person. There's too much nuance missing in text interactions. So it's a crap shoot whether or not anyone stays interested enough to get to that first date.

Which is why dating apps are fine, as a back-up supplementary thing to meeting people in real life.

So, what are you actually doing in your social life to expose yourself to new people?

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-17T22:08:21+00:00

Think of what someone really boring would write to you and do the opposite.

bojackhhorseman · 2021-11-17T22:15:12+00:00

Be funny. Always helps.

Dhooy77 · 2021-11-18T15:33:22+00:00

Neither have responded dang.

Dhooy77 · 2021-11-18T20:09:50+00:00

Well i tried getting to know them on Tinder. Completely ghosted.

Dhooy77 · 2021-11-18T00:45:16+00:00

One of these lol. https://www.mantelligence.com/funny-things-to-say-to-a-girl/

GroundbreakingBus138 · 2021-11-18T07:08:01+00:00

If you seem boring..maybe the chick is a retard

rickmackdaddy · 2021-11-18T01:14:15+00:00

what does the other person find interesting?

Actual-Ambition5909 · 2021-11-18T01:19:57+00:00

Speak of Wat , where, and when. Add how if you really are genuinely interested….and be yourself.

ElToreroo · 2021-11-18T06:45:07+00:00

Get them to talk about themselves

poppetje44 · 2021-11-18T07:04:37+00:00

You let them do the talking

ChildoftheLordJesus · 2021-11-18T17:35:54+00:00

Tell a funny joke

Title	How do I start a conversation with someone and not sound boring?
Author	Dhooy77
Upvotes	63
Comments	33
Date	November 17, 2021 10:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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