How do you stay positive?

frequentlywrong · 2014-03-19T05:57:12+00:00

Honestly I don't understand how the red pill is bitter to some. My blue pill days fucking sucked. Not knowing what the fuck is wrong with me, what I'm doing wrong and why women can't just like me.

How can it be bitter if it works so damn well? Is it bitter because you find out you have to actually work (always maintain frame) to be successful in your personal life?

haxorroxor · 2014-03-19T04:37:03+00:00

Finding TRP validated my own thoughts. I was not bitter to begin with because I wasn't divorced/cheated on.

I care and focus on what I can influence the most: myself. I remain upbeat because everyday I make progress towards my goals (e.g. starting my own business).

NikolaTeslaMGTOW · 2014-03-19T10:48:04+00:00

I find stoicism and philosophy to be helpful. Women should never be the main or secondary aspects of your life, they should be tertiary at best. This is your life and your journey. Sticking ur peg in an oval hole can be done by any animal. Is that all you want to be? A beast?

Do what you want and make your life yours. Think of all the time you waste of women and how it can be better applied with even better results towards getting those women. No more pinning like a beta, no more oneitis, no more thinking of what she said (after a crash course in shit tests), no more wasting time with women, no more wasting time talking to them, no more hope they will change and be decent, just reality.

Eventually the pain and anger goes away, and all that is left is the benefits of seeing clearly.

Stoicism. This guys said "power of positive doesn't work", I tend to agree. I won't wrap up shit in put a bow on it and call it a present. See what there is out there, resign yourself to your fate, and live. Find real reasons to live, not just thrusting to alleviate a desire. Do something with your life. Be the man you want to be, and that the hordes of whores want and can't have.

A lot of the MGTOW stuff is good, so is Stoicism and Epictitus, Epicureanism, philosophy etc. It took me a few months to really digest the red pill but I had known quite a bit for years so I may have had the edge.

Just remember, you are a man, you don't have to do what your dick says, or give in to emotions. Emotions are to be known and controlled. Not suppressed but not acted out, in an out of control manner.

no_game_player · 2014-03-19T04:21:22+00:00

/shrugs

It's really such a broad question as to be pointless. Whatever makes your life worthwhile is what makes it worthwhile. I think for most honest, intelligent people, it's a struggle to find what that is, but perhaps I've got a jaded view (spoiler: I do).

Was your happiness entirely or largely based on believing women were special snowflakes? Then I guess you might have a problem.

For me, it's not like anything here is that surprising, so it's not like it makes a major difference. That said, it's not like I was a barrel of monkeys before, so...

RejectionEquality · 2014-03-19T04:15:45+00:00

But surely there's light at the end of the tunnel.

"Surely?" What evidence do you have of that? Nope, nobody's getting out of this world alive, chummer.

What do you do to stay positive, even having swallowed TRP?

You don't.

The power of positive thinking doesn't work.

Just keep it real.

do you just live your life in eternal dissatisfaction?

You don't have to do that, either. It's only bitter if you make it bitter.

Women are a waste of time, money, and energy, and ALL they have to offer is pussy. Pssssst, most of them are fucking terrible in bed.

All that should matter to you is you.

That ain't so bad after all, is it?

Wolfwoodd · 2014-03-19T14:41:50+00:00

I'm 32 and I've used TRP / pick-up to level up (or alpha up, I suppose).

My life is awesome. I'm about to become engaged, after 4 years of dating (open relationship, with pre-nup), to somebody awesome. I have two other FB/girlfriends, one of whom is a solid 10 years younger than myself. They all know about each other. I couldn't be happier.

That being said, learn to think/live in the moment. The unhappiest people are those who dwell on the past or worry too much on the future. Use meditation or mental exercises to cut that shit out. It helped me considerably. Everyday I am a brand new person and I just try and make the best of each day as it comes.

FugitiveAlpha · 2014-03-19T20:09:29+00:00

Yes, the death of the dream that you were fed (that women are unicorns) sucks ass. She'll never love you the way you want her to..

The way i dealt with that kind of thing was knowing how much power i was gaining by leaning this shit. Most other men don't know this, women dont know or believe it, yet it works.

Soon, you'll have your choice of women better than any of the women you've had in the past, and you'll have them on your terms. True, none of them will truly "love you forever no matter what" but, you'll know how to keep your SMV higher than hers and she'll stay smitten with you.

FortunateBum · 2014-03-19T06:26:32+00:00

After taking the pill you realize it's not you. It never was you. It was them all along. That's the truth of most rejections in life, but with women men are led to believe we're not something enough. We didn't do or say the right thing. We aren't rich enough, handsome enough, whatever. No. Women are simply obsessed with status, mating hypergamously, and securing resources. They don't give a fuck about anything else and their perceptions are often wrong.

foghorn19 · 2014-03-19T04:45:21+00:00

Nothing is more comforting than truth.

Nothing is more enjoyable than freedom.

Truth sets you free.

theozoph · 2014-03-19T15:12:06+00:00

What, if anything, keeps you upbeat?

Friends, laughing, pushing more weight than the last time, reading great books, girls eyeing me in the street, traveling, meeting new people, learning new skills, achieving goals, setting new ones.

More than anything ? Finding out there's always more red pills to uncover.

pcadrian · 2014-03-19T15:44:30+00:00

eternal dissatisfaction

That's just a temporary phase. How long it is varies from person from person. Right now, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. Why? Because I have CONTROL of my life. I have more drive than ever, and am passionately pursuing more interests (other than women) than I have time to.

If you are feeling sad/dissatisfied, it is because you are still holding on to the old blue pill expectations and ideals. You WISH they were true. You have not accepted the truth yet.

MahlerNinth · 2014-03-19T16:43:09+00:00

Investment in myself, rather than in others who don't deserve it.

In my BP days I would be more concerned about looking good for others, and how they perceived me. I was the idiot nice guy who would pick up the tab after a date, and caring more about what the girl thought of me than what I thought myself.

The past year or so has been about making myself calmer, more knowledgeable, more healthy and more secure. I've spent a lot more time reading well, working out (and in addition to the physical benefits, I'm sleeping better, and am much calmer/more relaxed in general), and exploring other hobbies like cooking or investing.

I've felt much, much happier, and more upbeat and energetic in general than I was in my BP days.

wall-of-meth · 2014-03-19T16:50:43+00:00

There is only one thing to keep you motivated:

Your goal. To improve yourself.

You'll encounter situations that suck. You'll encounter people who suck. You'll have shitty days where things won't go as exspected. Yeah but fuck all that. Why would you let those things disctract you from your goal?

Seriously, there is no reason to let yourself get distracted from self improvement. Nothing is more important than that.

When a situation sucks, you tell yourself "Fuck it, I'll entertain myself right now." and create a more interesting situation. When people suck, you tell yourself "Fuck you, I'll find better people." and go out there to meet up with some good people. When your day is shitty, you tell yourself "Fuck it, tomorrow I will fucking rock that day." and you wake up and pour your energy into getting up and every single activity to make the day fucking good.

See, everything that seems bitter to you now can and will be either past and eliminated or changed to the better. And you do that because it is why you chose to swallow TRP. When you come close to your goal, take a look back and see what progress you made. This is what you are doing it for. For yourself and to tell yourself "You improved so much. Great job. Now don't stop, you don't wanna fall back where you once were.".

machimus · 2014-03-20T23:07:49+00:00

I personally revel in the dark side, but it doesn't mean you have to fall into despair about it. TRP comes with a host of wonderful benefits, including confidence, self awareness, success with women, not being cheated on, not being taken advantage of, not being tricked into marriage or children, and many more!

It's easy to dwell on the negative, but remember the negative was always there...you just didn't see it at the time. The positive things are new, and with your newfound knowledge you are empowered to take control of your life and steer it towards the better.

...and remember, dissatisfaction breeds growth. No bodybuilder ever got huge by lifting very light weights!

Markman94 · 2014-03-19T16:26:58+00:00

You're basically learning human biology/psychology. Do you get pissed when you learn how other animals mate? Society just makes these biological "rules" a lot more complex than any other species'. Meditate my friend, positivity and negativity are both subjective.

Exactly_what_I_think · 2014-03-19T04:20:15+00:00

Decided to be happy.
Spend time with happy well adjusted sexually satisfied men.
Smile, grin, smirk, gym, diet, sun.

sir_wankalot_here · 2014-03-19T04:37:00+00:00

Planning ways I can get women to degrade themselves and actually like it. Then making my plans reality. Just fucking women gets boring after a while.

normallevel · 2014-03-19T17:01:53+00:00

The conscious choice to remain happy and aware of objective reality. There is no magic cure this is a day by day process that gets a little easier with time, but the bad thoughts will always exist.

Title	How do you stay positive?
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Date	March 19, 2014 4:03 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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