How the hell can I get anywhere in this if I literally cannot imagine a pretty girl being attracted to me?

chevrolet_terraplane · 2021-07-11T16:54:30+00:00

a lot of people are giving really condescending answers and/or assuming things about you, and I’m sorry. that’s shitty.

sometimes we do everything “right,” and still our self esteem suffers. it’s not as cut and dry as many people think.

have you ever seen a counsellor or therapist? I know that’s not something this sub talks about much, but it may be worth it if you haven’t tried. there may be some deep underlying self-beliefs holding you back, which you developed in childhood. that would explain why your line of thinking seems irrational to you.

hope this helps!

karamelkant · 2021-07-11T17:42:38+00:00

I recommend confide this to a close friend or a therapist. You need to be reassured and listened to. Your feelings are valid, but us redditors couldn't give the same treatment as friends or therapist do.

miggysaurus-13 · 2021-07-11T15:55:52+00:00

That sounds like a personal problem baba

Popular_Variation170 · 2021-07-11T15:35:42+00:00

I feel very similiar to you. Im 20 now but Im a virgin and I never really feel like I could attract a beautiful girlfriend. I have like high standards for women but I never feel worth it. I like don't feel good enough to have a girlfriend or to deserve love. I have also workef on myself. I started working out, I have hobbies, I study for school, etc. But it never seems enough. But recently I have just started thinking more about it. I learned that my past doesn't define me and that everyone deserves love. And sometimes you just gotta believe in yourself and pump yourself up for dates or social situations. If you don't love yourself no ones gonna love you. A good motivator for me in hard situations is I just Tell myself. In 10 years from now none of this matters. If you do anything awkard or bad when you're with women that's okay just shoot your shots and try and have Fun. Life is a game and we're all gonna die anyway eventually so why not try and make the best of it. Just go for it man I believe you are worth it. Better to aim high and miss then aim low and hit. Theres a beautiful girlfriend out there for you that's gonna be super attracted to you.

Tall_Anywhere3705 · 2021-07-11T15:47:12+00:00

You got to have confidence buddy every girl is attainable! I’ve seen plenty of hot chicks with not so attractive guys. Not that you may not be attractive but you got to be confident! And hitting the gym too wouldn’t hurt. Woman love a nice pair of strong arms and chest even if they don’t know it 💪🏼😎

fingerzfuckz · 2021-07-11T18:00:41+00:00

you can’t just talk yourself out of deep self confidence issues. you need to table dating and find purpose in your life that makes you feel good about yourself. otherwise you’ll never get anywhere

smitstorm · 2021-07-12T02:06:15+00:00

Do you go to the gym and workout? Thats the first thing i recommend. Exercise is better than any medication for depression and getting stronger, looking and feeling better will 100% boost your confidence.

thelambofdeth · 2021-07-12T04:02:15+00:00

If you can't imagine a "hot" girl being attracted to you, why can't you fo after pretty or average girls? Why is everyone in this sub so obsessed with only hot women? Like if you have hang-ups with them perhaps being less shallow.

Impulsive666 · 2021-07-12T08:17:28+00:00

Do you know why you feel this way? Why she wouldn’t be attracted to you?

Title	How the hell can I get anywhere in this if I literally cannot imagine a pretty girl being attracted to me?
Author	Blackmetalpenguin90
Upvotes	3
Comments	46
Date	July 11, 2021 3:19 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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