How to/is it worth to cope with a girl with Daddy's issue?

carb0ncl1mber · 2018-04-21T09:42:41+00:00

I’ve dealt with this exact type. Down to the T. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to develop feelings, and then you’re fucked. Their behavior makes no sense and you will drive yourself crazy trying to understand why she is acting a certain way, and how your behavior is triggering these responses. Why is she asking to go home this weekend and meet my parents and then the next weekend is blowing me off and going off the grid? Why is she offering to cook me dinner tonight but tomorrow she won’t answer my calls or texts?

Girl I was seeing initially showed hints of these red flags, but soon she said she loved me, and put photos of me up on her insta, and even though I knew it was too fast and unusual, within a few more weeks, I got very used to being so desperately wanted. The late night episodes of light cutting, the wild sex, the impulsive behavior, the non-stop need for attention, and the never ending ego boost from their intense need for you make this type of girl a VERY dangerous trap. It’s exciting, raw, new, and fun but very quickly becomes a type of hell. Before you realize it you are emotionally involved. The games they play, the push/pull, the way they goad you into taking care of them —- it’s very hard to remain apathetic. They are the closest things I’ve seen to living Succubus’s. The time and energy dealing with them very quickly becomes too high a price for the sex, or the cool factor of being with a hot girl. And yet it’s so hard to get out.

Also keep in mind, the need for validation overrides any sense of loyalty. They will flirt text and possibly fuck other people to fill the gaping hole within them. They are EXCELLENT liars, and talented manipulators. My girl told me within a few days she was BPD. I thought I was mature enough to deal with that. I was an adult, I could be with someone with some mood swings now and then..

How naive I was...

My advice, is tread lightly and KNOW what you’re getting into. Do not give her ANY power over you. Do not bend to ANY whims. It’s a snowball effect that is impossible to reverse. It’s also a Catch-22 with no way out. She will relentlessly push you to do things, take this drug with her, meet up with her NOW, answer me NOW, go to this bar, go to this restaurant, and these types do NOT take no very well. They will wear you DOWN. Because if you do say no, they take it to mean you hate them, or don’t get them, and their attitude tanks and the vibe tanks, and you give just a little bit so they’re in a good mood again. Otherwise it’s misery, so what choice do you have. The catch is that if you give an inch they will claw for a mile. And every inch you give you become less attractive and more emotionally invested. And their behavior becomes even worse. It’s a nightmare.

Be ready to pull the ripcord and GTFO at a moments notice.

If you have any kind of attachment issues, or think for even a second maybe you COULD develop feelings for this type of girl ... RUN.

Backuponit2017 · 2018-04-21T03:13:31+00:00

Look up borderline personality disorder. Very common in your scenario.

JTKirkSr · 2018-04-21T07:15:28+00:00

There are alot of women out there. So many that don't have crippling mental disorders. Go look for one of those. You'll be glad you did.

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2018-04-21T14:59:14+00:00

Become her new daddy.

mushroom_overlord · 2018-04-21T07:48:59+00:00

It's probably not worth it if she is showing all these signs in the initial phases.

Most girls open up about insecurities eventually, but when it's so surface level you know it's serious.

Title	How to/is it worth to cope with a girl with Daddy's issue?
Author	Ghyslain333
Upvotes	5
Comments	16
Date	April 21, 2018 3:05 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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