How to stop seeking approval?

fitarachnid · 2014-03-13T05:34:23+00:00

Honestly this is kind of a weird subreddit to ask that question but I'll give it a shot with some wisdom anyways. You have to be your own friend. You need to be confident with yourself and approve of yourself. Friends are there to keep you company and do fun things with. You bond if you bond, you connect if you connect. Don't force it - if it happens it happens if they don't approve its not the end of the world. This will be easier if you approve of yourself. Focus on befriending that voice in your head. When you see something rediculous happen laugh about it with yourself. Talk to yourself. You can be your own friend. Just approve of yourself and know thats all that matters. It isnt easy, maybe try yoga ( /r/yoga ) or meditate it you need help "connecting with yourself" or relaxing. Don't think everyone needs to like you, not everyone will and it shouldnt be your goal in life for it to be so. Life is too short to please every single person on this earth. You are put on this earth as an individual, so was everyone else. I'm not saying be a bad person, definitely do good and treat people good. Just dont live to please others. Live to please yourself and respect others. It's a mentality that may take awhile to get working but just take small steps. Good luck!

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-03-13T06:13:35+00:00

We cover this stuff all the time. Read some of the seddit posts. For example, I just posted a link to this article: Becoming Emotionally Self-Reliant

RandianHero · 2014-03-13T06:23:32+00:00

By only seeking approval from yourself. If you can wake up in the morning and honestly say to yourself, "I am the man I want to be", then the approval of others won't mean anything to you.

MasterEpictetus · 2014-03-13T17:09:05+00:00

I solved my problem by approaching women. Because I was constantly seeking people's approval, it was incredibly hard for me to do cold approaches from fear of being rejected. Overcoming that fear and dealing with rejection made me realize that their opinions about me don't matter. It gave me a sense of self-worth and self-reliance that I didn't know before.

DEVi4TION · 2014-03-13T04:31:49+00:00

Slow the fuck down.

I'm serious. Slow down when your conversing and think about your actions more consciously. That's how you nip a bad habit.

Title	How to stop seeking approval?
Author	ithearrow
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	March 13, 2014 4:09 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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