As an introverted empath in my 30s who's failed a lot at learning game, how do I succeed?

NextSpinach · 2019-10-20T01:12:39+00:00

Why do you feel you're getting less attractive? Realistically if you work on your fitness and career, your 30s should be your prime for men. You can date women in their 20s and in their 30s so you have a very broad selection.

Without stating what areas you feel you're falling down with its hard to give specific advice.

tigermax42 · 2019-10-20T02:29:48+00:00

If you are empathic and waiting for her emotions to lift you up, realize that as a man it’s YOUR job to provide good emotions to HER and not the other way around.

So instead of receiving nonverbal and emotional cues, you need to be the one PROJECTING them. Alpha male body language (warm dominance), an easy smile, and send out the vibe of relaxed, intrigued, and maybe playful or even horny. Realize that your first impression can take up to 3-5 minutes where you need to keep talking and build up those emotions in the woman. If you are feeling uncomfortable then she will feel uncomfortable. If you can manage to project playful intrigue, (even if your not receiving it from her), when she finally hooks you will see her body language open up and start to blossom.

Women stay in a default “no” emotional state, and it’s your job to flip that to a “maybe” or “yes”

Real Social Dynamics covers this, and Dr Paul Dobranski wrote a book exactly on this subject called “Get Your Send On”. Check it out

Sweetdreams18 · 2019-10-20T05:32:30+00:00

I‘m also exactly like that at 33 and always fail with girls I truly like

The only thing that works for me seems to be drugs, but even on coke I remain nice and well behaved and treat people with gloves

The only thing that really seems to work is having self confidence, you have to understand what does that mean before using it

You are acting in a feminine way in this way, as a man you have to go after what you want devoid of that crippling shame

Therapy could help but I still have to try it

Sweetdreams18 · 2019-10-20T05:35:19+00:00

Also, I think you are not really an „empath“, you sinply notice In yourself what others do uncosxiosly

The „arrogant cocky alphas“ or whatver you want to call them also have that empathy but the difference is they take action while you paralyze yourswlf

Imperator_Pyra · 2019-10-20T09:38:26+00:00

Okay, so I'm 33, introverted, I dislike verbal abuse, so we got a bit in common... And I feel like I'm becoming MORE attractive the older I get.

You said you failed a lot, but you didn't specify how you think you're failing or what you're doing, so I'm just gonna go ahead and assume that your learning about game is just reading books and watching videos without applying the knowledge - correct me if I'm wrong.

If I'm not wrong and that's the case, here are two things that I think will help you massively, to the point that you don't really need anything else:

1) Start cold approaching, at least one cute stranger every day, and figure out what works for you and what doesn't IN THE FIELD, 2) Take up a combat sport - I started training Muay Thai and it helped both with my fitness and with my confidence.

Wulfric78 · 2019-10-20T13:45:39+00:00

If money is not a problem just get out of your comfort zone and home town for a weekend or so. Another town or country where you're not afraid of getting rejected by locals or getting recognized by friends and acquaintances. Then just allow yourself to become "someone else" and have fun!

mrpoopybutthole1262 · 2019-10-20T16:39:16+00:00

Title	As an introverted empath in my 30s who's failed a lot at learning game, how do I succeed?
Author	dkguitar88
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Date	October 20, 2019 1:01 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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