34 years old, how do I start getting laid?

onetwo3fakestreet · 2016-02-12T00:23:17+00:00

Going out solo is not easy. Like everything else you'll get more confident with it the more you do it... and when you're on a trip at a bar you'll never go to again it's the best time to take advantage of looking like an idiot and just getting exp.

Also... a stripper would intimidate anyone. Don't rely too much on booze but at first it definitely helps but you don't want to get to the point where you NEED it.

yummycandy · 2016-02-12T00:47:23+00:00

Dude you have an easy pick up line make crazy eye contact and tell the girl your too short for me and you normally go for girls taller then how ever tall that girl is. My friend always uses the same line and gets 5 foot 10 girls also works opposite of short girls.l say your too tall and cute for me to normally talk too but hi my name is its all about confidence. I sometimes tell a story to girl grab her say hey want to hear what just happened to me if she says not really tell her anyways reference that for whenever a girl says yes. Bar banter is your best friend when you go out alone remember stupid funny facts but don't over use them. Clubs are easy when they have a line talk to the girls that are closest to you say hey how's the music I've never been here before even if you have. Say my lame coworkers didn't want to go out but I wanted to have fun or dance tonight if you're lucky I might save you a dance.

Frosty1990 · 2016-02-12T02:01:49+00:00

Honestly it just sounds like you need a wingman, and instead of hitting up these bars you need to go out to the clubs.

These people that usually go to bars aren't looking for anything too crazy, although the club may sound intimating mostly everyone there is looking for the same thing you are, a quick lay and a night of adventure.

I highly recommend you go to the club and bring a wingman with you, I know it's easier said than done but you'll have much better results than your local bar

-Good Luck

WishfulTraveler · 2016-02-12T09:50:08+00:00

You need to start with lifting and getting into shape.

mattlas · 2016-02-12T14:25:24+00:00

From the story you've told, it really seems you are lacking some self confidence which is probably the root why you're hesitating. THIS IS OKAY! Why? Because you can CHANGE! Confidence is a state of mind. It's not hard coded. You can work on this.

No to surprise, start with going to the gym. Get a personal trainer. You're 34 and have a career then it's money well spent. People who don't go to the gym don't understand this... but it's not only about looking good, it's the confidence that comes with it. By sticking to a goal through thick and thin and getting results. If anything, the increased confidence outweighs the physical benefits of hitting the gym. Have you ever seen a dude with a girl who you thought.. how the??? You might think its money or whatever, and maybe it is, BUT - its not actually money, it's the confidence the man has in himself. You might not be rich to get that confidence, that's fine, you like 99.99999% of the men out there have to do it the hard way, through hard work and dedication.

On your physical appearance, you mentioned the gut... The gym won't always solve that either. You need to change your diet. Get rid of the sodas, sugar, beer or whatever it is that's making that gut.

If you're single and 34, you have the time now to change your life. You can do it. You just need to make a decision.

For motivation: Check out this youtube video. Doesn't click with everyone but it did with me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hV63DbQ_qSc

Byizo · 2016-02-12T15:15:22+00:00

I know my pic aren’t that great

I won't dwell on this since Tinder is really just a backup plan, but sub par pics will get you no/few matches every time. You're competing with men who have six packs, climb mountains, play sports, look fantastic in a suit, and have pictures with other hot girls. It's all about the pictures.

Next I'll congratulate you on actually talking to a girl at a bar. That alone puts you ahead of a lot of people. You chickened out on escalation, but that's something you can work on. Whenever I used to get stuck like that and worry about the outcome I would take a second to say to myself,

"What I do/say right now won't matter. The world doesn't depend on it. If I strike out and go home alone I'll be better for having made the attempt. The absolute worst thing I can do right now is nothing."

To use a metaphor, if you're playing basketball and you have a shot do you go for it or drop the ball for fear of missing?

Keep going out. Try, fail, improve. That's the ~~best~~ only way to get any better.

2016-02-13T12:23:08+00:00

Maybe start with not bullshitting about your age.

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-02-12T01:55:16+00:00

I would suggest you start by putting your penis in her vagina.

Have you read the basics in the sidebar?

silverbullet86 · 2016-02-12T12:59:03+00:00

Tinder/online should only be supplimental, not primary mode to find women.

There is tons of free content on learning game on youtube.

Do you have a couple grand? Take a PUA bootcamp. I know it sounds like a lot but look at it as a lifelong investment. In that perspective, its dirt cheap.

Title	34 years old, how do I start getting laid?
Author	Snazzy_Serval
Upvotes	33
Comments	20
Date	February 11, 2016 11:59 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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