I think there's a lot of focus here on getting laid. As a result, people seem to focus a lot of actively 'seducing' people, ramping up attraction. Which is perfectly fine. If you're out to get laid, you don't realllllly care about a girl's personality. And if you're in a club, you don't get the opportunity to really find out about a girl's personality much.

But if you're like me, you might prefer relationships over hookups. In which case, you're going to have to do some pre-screening of your own. By that, I mean that you should only want to date and hang out with girls that are interesting and that you actually want to hang out with!

I've had hookups with good looking girls, but I will always look back the mostly fondly at girls that weren't necessarily that good looking but were girls that I really enjoyed spending time.

As a bonus, the 'game' comes a lot easier to you if you're genuinely interested in just spending time with the girl. Asking her out on a date is simple because you're simply asking to hang out with someone that you enjoy hanging out with (and chances are, if you're comfortable and having fun with her, she'll feel the same towards you). And closing? Don't get too caught up too much about it - it'll happen eventually.

This kind pre-screening works the best if you talk to a lot of people. You will quickly hit upon that girl that you have fun with if you do that.