What keeps you going despite the mistakes you make?

amohnacs · 2017-10-05T18:59:21+00:00

If you don't put in the time and take action and suck it up you will NEVER end up with a girl like this

https://www.facebook.com/OfficialAbigailRatchford/photos/a.134898260015289.1073741830.134880503350398/771803199658122/?type=3&theater

TheGreatestGaine · 2017-10-06T02:44:26+00:00

Dear God. Why is r/incels leaking over here???

That sub is a toxic lake filled with crabs.

legodmanjames · 2017-10-05T23:12:02+00:00

idk why you care about this. people are starving on the streets or getting their families killed and you're focusing on these mistakes? who gives a shit, just enjoy your life how you want. you'll be fine.

riot2100 · 2017-10-06T02:18:53+00:00

I can't remember where I read it, but just by being a man and having a dick you have a chance with any girl. The difference between guys who get her and those who don't is their body language and how the girl is perceiving their intentions.

Tonight I held a stare with a girl longer than I've ever done. Doesn't seem like much, but not holding the stare is one of my biggest weaknesses. By slowly going over these hurdles you will be able to overcome them. I'm in the process of doing this now, but those moments I had today I wasn't even nervous, it was exhilarating!

rich_fletch · 2017-10-06T07:17:52+00:00

It sounds like it's not the making of mistakes that's your problem...it's the not learning from your mistakes. If you make a mistake once, you need to review what you did, and fix the problem.

And god knows what all that medication is doing to you.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-10-06T15:07:51+00:00

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I've read almost every PUA book and self-help guide.....I've seen all of the RSD videos and have just been studying the material.

This doesn't really matter.

And I have yet to actually start putting all this shit into action

This DOES matter. In fact, trying at ALL to socialize and build up social skills, would be more beneficial than simply doing nothing and reading all the damn books in the world.

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I just hate making mistakes but from what i've read apparently the mistakes are just part of the process.

Apparently? Are you joking? YES, they are part of the process. Unquestionably. Trial and error is one of the biggest historical teachers. Aside from copying, it's one of the major ways that people have to learn.

In fact, trial and error is how the most sophisticted AIs are learning right now. Look at this interview on this AI they're developing. The parallels are interesting. They're talking about:

How it would be impossible or impractical to try to hard code ALL the rules and scenarios for the AI to play the game. This is analogous to what you're trying to do, in reading all those materials.
Instead, they give a few basic parameters to the AI, and let it PLAY THE GAME.
The AI goes around trying lots of different things, and learning by a TON of mistakes, all within the basic parameters given to it by programmers.

The takeaway for YOU would be that you DON'T need a mountain of information. You just need a few basic rules or rules of thumbs to point the way. And more importantly, you need to get your ass out there and learn from mistakes. You're GOING to make them. And they are going to make you better.

ANY of us here who have learned ANYTHING, will have some cringe-worthy mistakes we could share.

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Within this 5 years i've been trying to fix my inner game by therapy and medication (currently Effexor, Adderall IR, Adderall XR, Lithium, Klonopin)

Holy cow. I'm getting a headache just thinking of the side effects. What sort of therapy are you doing to go along with this medication?

You do realize that therapy like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) could offer you the option of changing your own brain chemistry through mindfulness and thought control, such that you could wean yourself off of some of those drugs?

Because man, the side effects of those drugs, put together, sounds like a shitty shitty time.

Effexor: drowsiness, dizziness, feeling nervous, strange dreams, increased sweating, blurred vision, dry mouth, changes in appetite or weight, mild nausea, constipation, or decreased sex drive, impotence, or difficulty having an orgasm.

Adderall IR: same as Effexor, down to the impotence and difficulty having an orgasm.

Adderall XR: same as Effexor, down to the impotence and difficulty having an orgasm.

I mean, WTF, man. I'm stopping here before I look at lithium or the others in detail. I know lithium takes the life out of a person as a side-effect. It's like the people who designed all these drugs were trying to kill your sex life.

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This fear is what keeps me a a virgin at 20 y/o in university.

Fear? One of the side effects of your MEDICATIONS is apparently anxiety! Not to mention decreased sex drive! THAT probably doesn't help! If you have't tried CBT, seriously ask about it. Side-note: I know medications are needed sometimes, but the fact they piled SO many on, sounds like BS, especially two kinds of Adderall? Really?

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What keeps you going despite the mistakes you make?

Keeps me going? This implies that learning is bad. It isn't. Every mistake I've made, has led to me being less vulnerable to that sort of mistake in the future. Every mistake, has made me better.

You make it sound as if mistakes take the life out of you. You have this backwards. They give life.

NunoHimself · 2017-10-05T18:26:40+00:00

First of all, quit being a fucking pussy, no book is gonna help your inner game, take action. Second of all, getting laid is amazing - for you and for the chick, and she's willing to ignore your mistakes to get the dick, you have to ignore them as well.

Title	What keeps you going despite the mistakes you make?
Author	Noobie678
Upvotes	3
Comments	23
Date	October 5, 2017 5:56 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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