So I've been talking to a girl I met lately in one of my gym classes, and we set up to go out on a date on friday... However I wound up seeing her last night while out, and went to go talk to her. Mind you I felt gross (just worked out and was grabbing drinks with friends) and not really dressed for any presentable occasion. Fuck it.

Venue Bounce

She got a ride from her sister, however I suggested we bounce and go to a different venue. She told me "cool, but I'm not coming home with you, you need to give me a ride home." I figured this was classic ASD and told her that's fine. After flirting a bit at the new bar (we still never kissed at this point), we walk to my car and I'm ready to bring her home.

She then tells me "oh, want to go to your place?" So I bring her back. We lay in bed and make out a while, and after talking a bit, start to hook up. I admit I'm not the best to transitioning to hooking up so it took longer than it should have, but whatever.

Last Minute Resistance

In the middle of hooking up, she stops abruptly, and tells me she's not ready to have sex and never does on a first date. I tell her that's cool, and she admits that she knows it's a stupid society standard to feel guilty, but even though she's self-aware about it, it can't help but bother her.

I let her know there is no pressure at all and it's completely cool (I would never pressure a girl to do something she is uncomfortable with, and it wouldn't personally be enjoyable for me if I knew she was uncomfortable).

I scale back and stop hooking up, and we fall asleep.

Morning

Needless to say, we hooked up in the morning, and I'll be seeing her for our planned date on friday. ASD and LMR are possible to fight through, just be a cool guy and don't make a big deal if she's uncomfortable, and don't EVER pressure a girl into something they aren't comfortable doing.

Moving Forward

After talking a little bit with her this morning, I'm getting the impression she is looking for a relationship, and I'm not sure what the hell I want. How do I proceed so no one gets hurt?