Should I (20M) ask my crush out on text or in person? and what are the best signs I can look for (which may increase my confidence)?

No_Advantage · 2019-08-04T21:22:27+00:00

You know the answer. In person. On text they might read into it too much. 'I don't know this guy very well' 'if I agree to go out with him will he obsess over me and think we are a couple' 'etc etc'. In person you can be chill, show interest and ask her out for what it is, just two people spending some time together with no expectations other than getting to know each other and hopefully having some fun.

sixfeetunder98 · 2019-08-04T22:02:05+00:00

imo either is fine but just make sure it’s crystal clear that it’s a date not a friendly hang out. If she rejects the date offer move on to the next girl.

bootyeater99 · 2019-08-04T22:16:25+00:00

Always in person, girls will appreciate it more. I never meet girls through damn social media or ask them for a date and stuff like that its just boring for me. I am an old school type and I am glad tbh.

smoothmax · 2019-08-04T22:45:05+00:00

If you are also gaming 5 other girls it will give you perspective. You won't need to agonize over whether to do this or that with your one crush, you'll just go for it and store up any lessons learned for the next babe that you game.

Believe it or not, it will show in your interactions, even in brief text messages, whether you're either needy or you have abundance. Girls have an absolutely deadly accurate radar that tells them if you're a player or a chode.

Gaming other girls and to some extent giving up on your crush will have the paradoxical effect of (a) making you game her better, and (b) making her react to you better.

yo_averagedude9 · 2019-08-04T23:18:05+00:00

In person. Over text is kids play plus she’s over she think of you as more mature than if you were to do it over text

Dilpil01 · 2019-08-05T05:23:27+00:00

Do not use the word date! Unless you're already hooking up, keep things vague on purpose. Trust me asking someone on a date that youre not 100% certain is sexually attracted to you will result in a rejection. From what you wrote I'm nearly certain she isn't that keen (yet). Also texting will almost certainly fail.

Next time you see her, chat for a bit and get her in a happy mood, lots of laughter and confidence is required (must be in person). Look for indicators that she's enjoying the coversation with you. Give her a taste of what she gets when she hangs with you so she knows that it's worth her time hanging out more. When things are going well in person, say it's fun hanging out with her and you should try and grab a casual drink or something (preferably on the spot if she has time). Try keep it real casual, don't imply anything.

bootyeater99 · 2019-08-05T01:06:40+00:00

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Title	Should I (20M) ask my crush out on text or in person? and what are the best signs I can look for (which may increase my confidence)?
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Date	August 4, 2019 9:07 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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