Spinning plates for the first time in a while. How much is too much to handle?

puaCurveBall · 2012-03-26T19:04:03+00:00

I'm dating 5 girls at the moment, 3 of which for over 4 months. Not even sure how many I've kissed / #closed and are still making dates with. About half a dozen right now?

First off, just be honest with them. Running into one another shouldn't a be big deal, because you've told both of them that you are seeing other people. Just introduce them, "Jenni, this is Jamie, another girl I'm dating". Let them talk.

If you are misleading them on your intentions to be exclusive or are lying to them... shit I can't help you, learn to lie better.

It shouldn't be a big deal unless you make it one

puaCurveBall · 2012-03-26T19:43:30+00:00

I'm dating 6 girls at the moment, with 2 more in the wings. The main thing is keep in touch with every girl every day in some way, usually by text and every so many days a phone call. Be sure to have a talk with her before having sex and ask her what she's looking for and then tell her that you're dating other people and not looking for a girlfriend right now. Honesty is key. She can either accept that or get lost.

Why should you feel guilty? You're providing them the companionship and sex they desire while being honest about not being exclusive. It's only deceptive and cheating if you promise or imply that you're exclusive. Most women are surprisingly cool with being fuck-buddies or a friends-with-benefits as long as they know that's the deal - because most of them are doing this already with some guy. Don't think you're the only guy she's seeing. Women are experts at "spinning plates."

Like puaCurveBall said, if you run into another girl when you're with a girl just be cool and don't act weird or like you're trying to hide something. You're not, and there shouldn't be any jealousy issues among the women. If one does get all jealous, that's the one to cut loose.

k1ngk0ngwl · 2012-03-28T23:08:39+00:00

I typically go until it all falls apart. Something about having several women makes all of them respond to the competition, I have found. The sex is better, the time together is better... and it is a little expensive and a pain in the ass, sometimes, but, overall, worth the trouble. When it falls apart, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

lowercaseletter · 2012-03-26T19:21:34+00:00

I don't tell them unless they ask. For the first few dates, it's not even relevent. If things start to get serious, they might ask, and then I'll tell them I'm seeing other girls. But I don't tell them how many or their names. (mainly because this is always changing so fast)

Don't get too stressed. If you've only kissed one of them, the amount of plate-spinning you're doing is relatively minor compared to what a lot of other guys are up to. I could go into detail but I don't want to sound like I'm bragging. Suffice it to say you can spin a lot more plates than you realize.

BurnerSkunk · 2012-03-26T21:07:44+00:00

You are sleeping with one girl, and have intentions to try and add another one. Thats not plate spinning, thats just dating. Most likely she is doing the same thing.

Title	Spinning plates for the first time in a while. How much is too much to handle?
Author	lowercaseletter
Upvotes	8
Comments	29
Date	March 26, 2012 6:23 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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