How to feel more confident in myself/about my looks?

SnapSocialGuru · 2017-11-18T22:08:48+00:00

I had the mindset of "I'm super attractive and all of these girls want me" whether it's true or not I could be unstoppable in the seduction game

I don't know many guys who have that mindset. I also don't know how realistic that mindset is.

Many of the top players I know are pretty average looking (and they know it). They're not fooling anyone, especially not themselves.

A good alternative would be, "I accept me for who I am, I'm going to put myself as much as possible, and let the rest handle itself."

Just be who you are, take action, and let the rest take care of itself.

Unitednegros · 2017-11-18T21:31:38+00:00

Go lift some weights. It improves health and will increase your confidence.

JYandeau · 2017-11-19T03:25:00+00:00

You can’t really have the “im super attractive” confidence if you aren’t super attractive. The best guys with women dont get women because he convinces himself he’s the hottest man on the planet, he gets them because he doesn’t care whether or not he’s the hottest man on the planet. You don’t need to be extremely attractive to have extreme confidence, you just gotta work on yourself & once you start to feel like you’re a prize, women will aswell.

greyestofblue · 2017-11-19T02:12:18+00:00

Recently I've lost a lot of weight and I had thought previously if I had, my confidence would increase in an indirect proportion. It hasn't. Looking back at every girl I had while >200lbs they all stated they were impressed with my confidence, which I was feigning at the time...typically approached with the "watch how quick this will go down in flames, she's totally out of my league" mentality, not taking myself seriously.

I realised that my looks are at best average. I'm of average height. I really have no redeeming physical characteristics. But, I do have my sense of self worth, correct posture, ability to hold eye contact, dress well, and bullshit my way through small talk and conversations.

Ever see the 250 lbs guy, balding, driving the 92 Honda accord with a hb7,8, or 9, with the disproportionate self confidence? Draw off that.

PinballWizrd · 2017-11-19T04:46:26+00:00

Detach your looks from your sense of self worth.

nickwchau · 2017-11-19T22:18:36+00:00

Here are some really good tips for you:

I was in the same position as you a year ago. I like to think i'm a pretty decent looking guy, I do get compliments here and there. I did think that if have the "courage" to approach every women, i can get 9s and 10s. But I just don't seem to be able to come up with the confidence.

Heres how I changed my mindset. I worked on my physique and dress style. I started wearing stylish clothes (e.g. Zara/Club Monaco/Banana Republic) and accessorize myself with bracelets etc. Check out https://nobljewelry.com/collections/under-19-99 they have nice bracelets under 20 bucks and are very luxurious. Have gotten quite a few compliments from women.

Style for men is very important. After I focused on my appearance, that is one less thing to worry and be less confident about. The accessories has help a lot with my confidence boosting. I've gotten several expensive ones from them and throw them on when Im feeling less confident.

After you've settled your physical, you have to work on your mental. You already know you're a decent looking man, and women see that. Remember, you cannot be everyone's cup of tea. But the main reason you feel like you have NO confidence is because you do not have an "interesting" topic to talk about. All the PUA teach you to BE interesting, GIVE value. In the case that you don't, you lose confidence. You become scared of what you say because you feel judged.

Its easy, find something you're passionate about. Maybe fantasy football? Talk about it. Analyze it while you're on the date with the women. Bring it to your level, don't go to theirs. Talk about the new bracelets you got, and they're compliment you on your accessory, and they will think more highly of you since you pay attention to your style...

good luck!

Title	How to feel more confident in myself/about my looks?
Author	bobdole262
Upvotes	17
Comments	8
Date	November 18, 2017 9:19 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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