How do you balance "not giving a fuck" and reputation?

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-06-25T10:51:29+00:00

DGAF is not about being able to act like an asshole because you are freed from social constraints. DGAF is about doing your best, and then you DGAF about the results.

chet_hunter · 2012-06-25T06:17:02+00:00

you gotta make choices breh, we can't answer that shit for you because we can't know all the context. If you wanna fuck Annie more than beth and their best friends for life....yeah you might not wanna fuck beth even it's a sure thing. or maybe you do.

we can't answer this for you my brother, just think out the situation a little. not giving a fuck is about attitude but it certainly does not mean disregard all consequences.

shitforbrainsbreh · 2012-06-25T11:03:10+00:00

It took me a while to come to grips with this concept as well. But in fact the answer is simple.

You know or need to figure out: - Who you are - What are your values & principles

Do whatever you want to do as long as it doesn't infringe on this definition of who you are and what makes you, you. That way you are still not giving a fuck, but you are bounded by the judgement of the most important person, yourself.

E.g:

I dont really enjoy my job. I could choose not to give a fuck, show up late to work, talk back to my boss etc. However accoplishment and hardwork is something I value, I like being able to say to myself, "yeah you are a hardworker, thats who you are". I don't care if my boss, family and friends, some random girl in a bar etc think I do or dont work hard, I do it for me.

damcgra · 2012-06-25T07:41:19+00:00

i find not making promises helps reduce any backlash from your actions.

itsmevichet · 2012-06-25T13:58:39+00:00

Well... if you're being real with them, and have been from the beginning, and they still choose to hang around, you probably have a lot more leeway than you think.

Other than that - we can't answer this for you. Take them out of their comfort zones and see how they react. Don't get all rapey - just be however you want to be, and if they're not having it, move on.

You've gotta realize that not everyone's opinions matter - unless these people are your close friends and are looking out for you, let them think what they'll think. There's nothing wrong with you being you if you have a healthy attitude about it and are taking care of yourself (again, without being rapey).

RelaxAndAllonsy · 2012-06-25T07:57:23+00:00

Not giving a fuck is all about confidence. Being confident in the way your are, this ranges from your actions to the way your dress. If your are confident in these areas people will sense that you don't give a fuck, you don't need their validation. If you feel that you have been to wild while you were out then acknowledge that. For example, the other night I got a bit to drunk and tried to hookup with a good friend and made a bit of a fool of myself. I apologized for this and then made a joke about my drunken charm and subtleness. This way you can preserve your reputation and create an in-joke that could be used in future situations if you decide to go for her.

You shouldn't stop caring about consequences, this will end badly for you.

2cats2hats · 2012-06-25T16:26:43+00:00

It took me a long time to understand this......but I will crunch it into one sentence.

Women probably won't remember how you made them think, but women will NEVER forget how you made them feel.

tl;dr: Think what they might feel from your actions.

MARSpu · 2012-06-25T06:09:38+00:00

Just do it.

2012-06-25T17:05:38+00:00

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Title	How do you balance "not giving a fuck" and reputation?
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Date	June 25, 2012 6:04 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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