So I've been lurking here for months now, but I feel like the only way to succeed with any of this info is to be at least a 9 or a 10. Am I wrong?

2011-06-20T07:30:46+00:00

What seems to be working best for me lately is the Barney Stinson approach. I've never been big on self esteem (I'm a 5 on a good day) but I just go into every situation with the knowledge that I'm fucking awesome, and I've been doing a whole lot better playing the game.

portionsforfoxes · 2011-06-20T14:18:27+00:00

If you do this stuff correctly you will BE a 9 or 10. Just try it.

philosarapter · 2011-06-20T14:27:28+00:00

Most likely you will be deemed "creepy" the first few times. Its gonna happen sooner or later. But this is a hurdle you must overcome, its a lesson in learning to forget what people think about you. The number one most important rule in seduction: Be comfortable in your own skin.

Meaning don't care about what anyone thinks or says about you, do it because you want to. Those who like it, will become your friends, those who don't will become distant forgotten faces you'll never see again.

You WILL get rejected, its apart of the process. But that doesn't mean stop, it means keep going out and getting rejected until you don't anymore. Until you no longer care about win or lose, you care about the experience, the moment and nuances of interaction, the stories you accumulate.

The point is, its a skill. You have to practice a skill in order to get better at it. You WILL become better and better at it.

yokhai · 2011-06-20T13:40:01+00:00

Then you haven't been paying well enough attention. The point isn't to read and read and read and read. It's to through yourself out there and just try any and everything and figure out what works.

Your attractiveness is only partially your face. You have so much to give to a woman and they want to know that. They only way they can know that is if you show them that, and you do this by faking confidence.

A confidant man lets the world knows he is valuable. A fake confident man lets the world knows he is valuable.

See the difference? There is none.

Worry less about your looks and more about your life/hobbies/activities and you will see a drastic change in the quality of women in your life.

graffiti81 · 2011-06-20T15:27:03+00:00

Yes, you're wrong.

That being said, anybody that tells you that how good you look and the amount of game you need to succeed is not inversely proportional is lying.

bananatomato · 2011-06-20T15:09:17+00:00

9 and 10s wouldn't need this subreddit.

Tell yourself that you're awesome. You're the coolest motherfucker here, man.

(Except for me. I'm still more awesome ;])

Fenor · 2011-06-20T13:05:50+00:00

you are totally wrong these tips are for those that aren't a 9 or a 10, they usually don't need these tips but they are to beat 9 and 10 and to get girl that are a 9 or a 10.

crazyhit · 2011-06-20T14:19:55+00:00

Your looks are like 90% just hygene and getting clothes. Yes you have to shave. Yes you need to wear perfume. Yes you need to put some goo in your hair. Yes you need to go to the barber once a month. Yes you should start working out. Yes you need to have good breath. Yes it is a good idea to use some moisturiser for the skin. And yes you have to wear something other than generic t-shirts. There's plenty of resources online of good ways for good hygiene and style. And nice clothes doesn't have to be expensive, you can do really nice finds in a thrift shop if you're on a tight budget, just make sure it fits, it's not torn and it's clean. It's really not much of an effort and it will bring a 4 to at least a 7 just doing these things. Besides I'm sure you expect all these things from potential females.

eviljames · 2011-06-20T15:22:08+00:00

The correct answer: Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're a 12, and that the 9's and 10's are beneath you. believe it.

lemonadegirl · 2011-06-25T01:28:14+00:00

Yesterday I was walking downtown and witnessed a grubby bearded ginger hitting on one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen. She was into it. I still don't know what happened but fuck, that guy has game.

he1ixMeadow5 · 2011-06-25T06:14:59+00:00

be fucking creepy! people call people a lot of things man. the trick is if you start acting confident, people will pick up on that and want to talk to you, that developes my confidence. just push your real self through as much as you can and people will see that and be interested.

Title	So I've been lurking here for months now, but I feel like the only way to succeed with any of this info is to be at least a 9 or a 10. Am I wrong?
Author	ialsolovebees
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Date	June 20, 2011 7:15 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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