I'm a girl back at college. I want to meet people/guys but I'm feeling a lot of approach anxiety.

2010-08-21T05:18:18+00:00

Fishing with dynamite in this hyar subreddit.

ArMcK · 2010-08-21T08:53:00+00:00

Where are you going to college? Perhaps one of us is there and can take you out to show you. In return though, you gotta be his winggirl and get him closer to scoring with a hottie.

BackAtIt · 2010-08-21T09:29:07+00:00

Copy/Paste of my comment here

You're already ahead of the game. Parties the first week of college are the easiest way to meet guys and girls in the history of the western world. Don't drink too much. Don't worry too much about hooking up tonight. Focus on meeting, and connecting, with as many people as possible. The idea is to network the entire first week, so that for the next 4 years, no matter what party you go or what class you take you'll already know someone, or at least someone's friend.

Disclaimer: Only do the following with people who are 5's and up. Be nice to, but generally stay away from fat chicks and creepy looking dudes. Anyone who looks or acts like an outcast isn't going to help you out.

Say hi to anyone who makes eye contact with you. If they stop to talk, ask them where they're from. Poke a little fun at the answer, say "Isn't it pretty (smelly, sweaty, frigid, dangerous, whatever) there, how do you like it here so far?." Do this for a while and try to remember everyone's name. Eventually you'll meet someone who's from the same place as someone you've already met. Say hey I just met a Jenny from Wisconsin, did you come with her? Well you have to meet her. Take the person (by the hand if it's a girl) through the party and introduce them, and make sure to tell them your name again. If it's a big party ask the other two standard questions while you're walking through the crowd. What's you're major and What dorm do you live at. If the major is hard, comment on it being their last night of freedom - easy say then i'll be seeing you out at all the parties. You probably won't know much about the dorms but ask if they've met any cool people there yet. Bounce around the party and check on people you've introduced. "So did you find out you're cousins?" "So who's skipping class first while the other takes notes?" "So what's the best way to sneak booze into your dorm?" (correct answer: In a laundry bag with clothes.) If they're cool, suggest you all exchange numbers, and that you should all hang out at another party that weekend if you know of one, if not, whatever freshman bbq, concert, thing the school has planned this weekend. Don't worry about following through with all these people. Just go to the event with a couple people from your dorm and you should have a ton of people calling you to meet up.

As for the girls, keep it flirty and stick to the hot ones. You don't want to be known as the guy who banged a fatty or the wasted chick. You're already DHVing by knowing a ton of people at the party. Ask them what their favorite drinking game is and have them teach it to you. Ask them where there favorite hookup spot was back home. If they're laughing and having fun, tease them about going to college only to find a husband or to have their first lesbian experience. Have fun with it and follow their lead if it's going somewhere sexual, but don't push it. This may seem a bit beta but you don't want to be labeled creepy. If a girl wants to hookup in college she'll make it obvious. And remember, the best thing you can be called is a man-whore. Self-fulfilling prophesy.

MockDeath · 2010-08-21T04:26:25+00:00

Hell college was not easy for me. I am introverted to the point it hurts. Basically you need to just force yourself to go out, talk to strangers and be yourself. You will get the hang of things as time passes. It does get easier.

Unfair · 2010-08-21T04:49:38+00:00

no, you don't need to get a drink - you can just sit down at the bar or if you feel awkward about not ordering anything you can just ask for some free water. Don't worry, you see people by themselves just hanging out with nothing to do at bars all the time, no one will think you're weird or anything.

2010-08-21T05:26:37+00:00

I squandered my college days thinking, there is plenty of time for parties.

Then the moment of realization came, "This is my last fucking month in college.." - I was so paranoid that people would realize I wasn't socially matured...

Lets just say - time is unforgiving. Go out and realize - now, years past college I hardly remember the stupid shit people did at parties. So 5 years from now - it will all be just one big regrettable haze.

philosarapter · 2010-08-21T05:48:17+00:00

Force yourself to talk to them. Doesn't matter that you don't want to, or you are scared.

Do it anyway.

2010-08-21T06:48:53+00:00

The more you expose the more guys you'll get sad but true.

punkerdante182 · 2010-08-21T04:19:36+00:00

Just go out. Say "fuck it" and go have a good time. You don't need people to go out with, just walk around. Learn how to have fun with just you.

Title	I'm a girl back at college. I want to meet people/guys but I'm feeling a lot of approach anxiety.
Author	seducingguys
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	August 21, 2010 4:06 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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