AFC Looking for some advice

pooflinga · 2010-08-22T23:50:10+00:00

Talk to more people.

philosarapter · 2010-08-23T14:38:11+00:00

Everyone gets AA. The trick to overcoming it is the following:

Three second rule: Talk to your target within three seconds of seeing that person, don't give yourself time to think. Learn to be quick on your toes mentally.
Warm up sets: Talk to three groups of people that you don't find interesting or attractive, just to start some momentum, gain some social proof in the room and overcome your anxiety. Once you are already talking to strangers, its alot easier to just transition into a different set.
Feel good about yourself: I take it if you are out, you are looking your best. Remember this, you smell good, you look good, you're speaking clearly. You are the type of man women are looking for. They are just too nervous to come up and talk to you and they assume you are already taken. So you are deciding to do them a favor and help them make a new friend today. Because, lets be honest, who doesn't like to make new friends (especially attractive ones!)

xgetbusyx · 2010-08-23T05:48:08+00:00

If you want some seasoned PUA advice, we'd probably need a specific situation to coach you through.

Some general advice:

Be Engaging: nothing will kill your game worse than being boring.
Make fast progress, but don't be needy. sometimes no contact is the best contact.
And whatever you do, never ever bring up your Ex(s)... EVER

RedErin · 2010-08-23T13:54:24+00:00

For just starting out I recommend doing the 30 day challenge. It's in Rules of the Game by Niel Strauss. AKA The Stylelife Challenge.

joffy · 2010-08-23T07:17:13+00:00

with regards to stalling game - watch ira glass youtube videos on story telling, and seek other sources that will teach you how to be more compelling interesting person

AFC Looking for some advice

Comments

3 isn't ironclad. Exs can be very useful in a "preselection" kind of way. Don't speak ill of an ex and don't talk like you still have oneitis for your ex.

Title	AFC Looking for some advice
Author	Cogwork
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	August 22, 2010 9:48 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/d46k0/afc_looking_for_some_advice/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/afc-looking-for-some-advice.1311454 https://theredarchive.com/post/1311454