how do i find 'the zone'

MaysonNSS · 2010-09-27T16:42:51+00:00

First off, understand that finding confidence is not based on the amount of women you get. Sure in the beginning as you are getting girls you feel amazing! What happens over time is you slip into something that I call, "the black hole."

The Black Hole refers to the dark depression when you realize that your self confidence is based on something external, something outside of your ability to influence.

I hear people all the time tell me they wanna get their dating life under control so they can be self confident and I tell them what they want is NOT the magic pill, they want real core change in their lives. Self confidence is about SELF, it is not about the amount of women that you have in your life, it is about QUALITY of life. Dating and attracting the women you want is one part of the equation.

I will tell you that the FIRST step to becoming self confident is to understand that you must have things that you value about yourself. Things that no one can take away from you. If you build your self confidence on internal validation then this is the beginning of lasting change.

Feel free to ask any questions, love to help you out any way I can!

All the best, Mayson http://www.nsscoaching.com/blog

TrollyMcTrollFag · 2010-09-27T07:58:17+00:00

This is the question, isn't it? I think it's something all of us struggle with at the beginning.

Just keep practicing, and you'll find it eventually!

EDIT: You know what helps me? Going to places I don't know ANYONE. The idea that i can make a complete ass of myself at this place and I will never see any of these people ever again is comforting. And redbull. Lots of redbull, maybe with some vodka in it...

EDIT2: and find a wing you can vibe with. This is HUGE for me.

philosarapter · 2010-09-27T20:47:10+00:00

One does not find the zone. One becomes the zone.

theta71 · 2010-09-27T22:46:25+00:00

More Zen, In order to gain control, you first have to lose control.

BishopMoves · 2010-09-27T14:05:15+00:00

Seems like you're a lot like me. I have some deep-seeded paranoia which makes it hard to enjoy myself around people. But when I am completely comfortable with 1 person in a large group, it all goes away and I feel alpha.

My guess is that its a person (or lack of person) that brings out your true stripes, so stick with them and keep on good terms as much as possible.

2010-09-27T18:34:55+00:00

I know what you're talking about, and while I agree with Mayson, I find that one of the biggest things that helps me is just starting social interactions. If I force myself to talk to people more than I normally would, then I slowly build up to the point of being in the "zone." It feeds off itself and I socialize more and more.

Basically, "fake it until you make it," which has been psychologically proven to work. If you want to be in the zone, then smile more, talk more, and fake that you're already in the zone. Soon, you'll actually be in the zone.

monkmonkmonk · 2010-09-27T11:19:34+00:00

OH WOW YOU ARE A SPECIAL AND UNIQUE SNOWFLAKE WHO HAS "ON" AND "OFF" DAYS

Title	how do i find 'the zone'
Author	blorkman
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	September 27, 2010 7:30 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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