How to Handle Moments of Silence

atriumph · 2010-10-26T02:29:41+00:00

Thanks, this is useful. I'm pretty bad at keeping conversations going and handling silences. I'm going to keep #4 and #5 in mind. #3 is hard for me, though --- how do I make it feel like I'm not just making boring small talk? Whenever I ask a question out of the blue I feel like I'm coming off as desperately searching for something to say. What are some techniques for making that feel more natural?

psykocrime · 2010-10-26T02:37:06+00:00

Moments of silence don't have to be a bad thing. The key is to OWN the silence. It's not an "awkward moment" it's just a moment when you're both being silent, thinking. Just look at her and smile a warm friendly smile... and don't say a word.

I'm having such a great time right now, you’re fun :)"

Exactly. But don't be afraid to allow the silence to linger for a while before doing this. Those silent moments can be good for creating tension, which is a good thing.

Also, make sure to allow enough silent time for her to start looking for a way to fill the silence. Don't feel that you have to fill every moment of the conversation.

And you can always go "cocky/funny" as well, if you want to:

"So... do I have to carry this entire conversation, or are you gonna say something?" <grin>

"Cat got your tongue, or are you just intimidated by my stunning good looks?" <grin>

etc. etc.

Paul-ish · 2010-10-26T04:08:56+00:00

Very informative. This is the kind of post I enjoy reading.

PS: The link at the bottom of your post doesn't work.

2010-10-26T10:12:44+00:00

Maintain eye contact and take the pressure off with a long sustained fart.

2010-10-25T20:10:37+00:00

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limpboy · 2010-10-25T20:12:27+00:00

Very good post! am gonna try these techniques. Now all i have to do is actually meet new woman.

getyourshineon · 2010-10-26T00:15:10+00:00

Smile warmly and don't be afraid to say much fun you're having. "I'm having such a great time right now, you’re fun :)"

Can't agree with this enough! It puts us at ease ... which makes us like you more!

throwawayrarst · 2010-10-26T15:40:03+00:00

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Title	How to Handle Moments of Silence
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Date	October 25, 2010 8:01 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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