I'm an AFC and I'm unsure on how to improve.

philosarapter · 2011-03-16T14:02:15+00:00

I'm going to make a judgment call from the gate: You see many people you could talk to every day but they aren't "good enough" for you. Or the people you do want to talk to are 'out of your league' or 'busy', etc.

You know what that is? That's your mind making any conceivable excuse to get out of actually going up and talking to them. What you need to do is whenever you hear your brain making and excuse you stop yourself, realize your brain is just trying to squirm its way out of an uncomfortable situation, then say "FUCK YOU ME" and go do it anyway.

You being in college gives the biggest advantage in the world. There is no easier playing field than college.

Do something. Join an activity, join a frat, join a club, join a sport, volunteer. Go to your campus board and sign up for all of those extracurricular activities. Your day should be fully occupied from 8am-2am.

On top of this, talk to everyone around you. Talk about anything, talk to anyone. If you can't muster the courage to talk to one of the 'cool' kids, then just talk to the geeks about world of warcraft or whatever. As long as you are talking, you are honing your social skills. Then meet their friends and their friends friends. Then go to parties and get wasted, do soemthing stupid so that everyone remembers you. Whatever.

You are going to die one day, any day. Get out and live your life man.

No matter how uncomfortable you feel doing it now is much much less than how bad you will feel if your whole college life passes you by and you didn't do anything with it.

Suffer the pain of discipline or suffer the pain of regret.

Nexism · 2011-03-16T06:16:02+00:00

You're in college, meaning you're probably young.

Join every single club for a start. Whenever you participate in an activity, your sole goal is to have fun, not pick up women.

By having fun and being in a positive state of mind, other people naturally become attracted to you (I shit you not).

That's a start, changing your pussy mindset.

ehbeeseedee · 2011-03-16T08:16:15+00:00

Night game is easier, imo. What restrictions do you have?

glassuser · 2011-03-16T13:53:25+00:00

Put yourself out there. You'll have to force yourself to find ways to get out of your comfort zone. That's step one. Join clubs, volunteer, join a yoga class. You'll find LOTS of free stuff on college campuses.

Geaux · 2011-03-16T14:59:00+00:00

Get out there and Crash and BURN!!!

No, seriously, until you get over the fear of rejection, you'll never build up the confidence to have game.

Think about this EVERY TIME you want to approach a girl, "What's the worst thing that could happen? She says 'no'. Sure, I'll probably feel bad, but who gives a fuck? Will I ever see this girl again in my lifetime? Probably not."

Title	I'm an AFC and I'm unsure on how to improve.
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Date	March 16, 2011 4:15 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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