I came up with this theory about life and how everything that happens in it is one of three things: A lesson, a test and a reward. I'll explain how it pertains to the art of seduction as I go along.

As you shuffle through this short life, you are constantly presented with "tests". These tests are a cumulative exam of your entire adult life to determine whether or not you have acquired enough knowledge to continue down the path you want to go. When it comes to seduction, every approach to a girl is that test.

Each time you approach a girl, you are immediately tested on everything you've learned, whether it be kino, eye contact, or you name it. Should you pass the test, you close. Now, you certainly can set the bar higher for yourself, going for the #-close, k-close, and f-close on your approach, but should you fail the test you get blown out.

Getting blown out is not a bad thing, which is what I think a lot of AFC's have issues with. I used to have a terrible fear of rejection. I learned that getting blown out is a fail of the test, but the bonus is that it now becomes a "lesson".

If you look at getting blown out as a bad thing, you're going to be more inclined to think that you can't sarge and pick up girls. However, if you constantly think to yourself that you learn from every blow out that you get, it's never a bad thing. The more lessons you learn, the better calibrated you become and the easier these tests are. The thing is, you never stop learning lessons. Each time you try something new or attempt a new approach, you test yourself. Whether or not it works determines whether this test stays a lesson, or becomes your "reward".

The reward is pretty easy to see. Your reward is your #-close, your k-close and your f-close. If you have learned enough lessons in your attempt at the art of seduction, you will start closing more and more. Once you've learned enough lessons and have mastered them, it starts to become easy to be rewarded.

So, it's important to not get down every time a girl blows you off or you don't get the number or kiss. It's going to happen and you actually want it to happen. I used to take rejection so personally and now each time I get rejected, it chips away that sinking feeling in your gut that you get. Now, I only get a little upset by rejection, but it doesn't affect my overall state of being.

I'm ready to get back out there and make more approaches, learn more lessons and test myself every day to see if I am the man I want to be. I'm not there yet, but I will be. I can see my goal and so should you.