Gentleman, instead of writing a field report, I want to emphasize things which have led to me being at a point in my life, where every night I go out, I expect to get the girl I want. I don't say this to brag. I want you guys to experience this shit.

About 16 months ago I was a fucking scrub. I had no game. Girls knew it. I had no confidence. I was selling insurance out of college, living by myself. Most of my buddies had moved to a big city. I wasn't going out a lot. When I did, I was too much of a pussy to talk to girls. I couldn't remember the last time I had a connection with a girl, let alone touch one of them. Pathetic. My weekends consisted of drinking to get drunk, because I love to drink. I will say this though, I'm a fairly handsome guy and have been slim/fit my whole life. I'm 25 years old.

I left my insurance job, and moved back to California. I live in a town where girls flock to every weekend. Its a vacation town. I randomly met what would turn out to be my wingman when I moved there. We realized that we both had read The Game I bought that book because I had royally fucked up my chances with this girl I was in love with (and yes I realize how sad that shit is, being in love with a girl when you haven't even fucking kissed her.) I put her, and every other girl I liked, on a pedestal when they had done nothing to deserve this status besides look good.

I had the humility to realize that I fucking sucked with women, and that in order to change, I had to throw away my ego and learn this shit. So, heartbreak led me to this lifestyle, as I am sure many of you can relate to.

** I have always been the "nice guy." I was the fucking definition of mr nice guy.

For the past 16 months, I've been going out. A lot. I feel like Jeffy at the Rio, because I go to the same club all the time.

It has taken me until a few weeks ago to realize my potential. That is almost 16 months of rejection, learning, going to work exhausted, more rejection, a few small successes which would ignite the fire, meeting people, making friends, getting rejected more.

Like I said, my looks have always been here. If I was always decent looking, why wasn't I getting laid?

No confidence. Zero. I didn't even know the word existed.

I have gotten with a girl of MY choosing each of the past 5 nights I have gone out. Now I personally don't have sex with all of them, however, having a girl wrapped around my finger is enough fun. And yes I hook up with them, but not always sex. That's just how I am.

I want to lay out some things which you should strive to attain.

  • Inner Game. Let me repeat: Inner game, Inner game, Inner game, Inner game. Master this shit. If you aren't happy with your body, fucking go exercise and work out. If you aren't happy with your eating habits, CHANGE THEM. If you aren't happy with your speaking skills, taking a public speaking class. If you don't have interesting things to say to people, GO DO INTERESTING THINGS. How does this relate to inner game? When you CHANGE this aspects of your life, you feel GOOD about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, because you have every reason to, you develop the attribute of KNOWING that you deserve a stunning, gorgeous, complete package. When you feel you deserve this stunning, gorgeous, complete package, you have reached the necessary level of inner game. If you feel inadequate and unworthy, change your habits. Only when you truly feel you deserve these girls will you be able to pull them on a regular basis. They can see through the smokescreens. Inner game is rule #1. Master this before you do ANYTHING. You are awesome. You can become awesome. Just put in the work.

  • Approach everybody. I remember meeting girls, and taking them on dates purely for the experience. I wasn't attracted to them, however, I needed the experience. Its like poker. If you've played a million hands online, you know exactly what to do when some donkey raises your BB and you are holding AJ. Its experience. You need it.

  • Do not be afraid of rejection. Lol honestly, who fucking cares. These girls don't wake up the next morning saying "oh my god, I can't believe that one loser tried to talk to me." And if they do, who cares. Seriously, who fucking cares. Let them talk. They will meet some dude the very next day and talk about the same shit and forget about you. Rejection means you are LEARNING. Without rejection, you won't get anywhere. Rejection is a necessary RITE OF PASSAGE that if you do not do, you will not get to the level you want. If you aren't getting blown out when you are beginning, then you aren't trying hard enough.

  • Forgive yourself for making mistakes. Seriously, its OK. You are human. We aren't perfect. We fuck up. Don't beat yourself up over it. I've done so many stupid things I could write a book. Let me tell you what I said last night, in front of a HB7, HB 9, and a HB 8. This was with a group of girls we were pregaming with and rolling to the club with. I forget what the context was, but this girl and I shared a commonality, so I MEANT to say "that's awesome, you know you and I are like fraternal twins." What I SAID was "you and me are sisters." HAHAHA! Yes I said that shit, and Yes they called me out on it. ACCEPT it like a fucking BOSS. That is exactly what I did. Yes my face was blushing a little bit. But I stood my ground, and didn't shy away from it. I acknowledged that I said some stupid shit, and then said what I meant to say.

  • Body language. Be chill. When I meet ladies, I don't lean in to them. I stand my ground, shoulders relaxed, and I speak up. Don't lean in, speak loudly.

  • Make eye contact with everybody. This has always been natural to me, so I haven't ever had a problem with it. But realize that a real man looks everybody in the eye, says what he means, and stands by what he says.

** This most recent Thursday, my game was off. I was exhausted. My openers (all situational, no canned) were not sticking. I recognized that I was being boring, bland. However, as I was at the bar, I told myself to man up. I ended up with a girl (her friend C-blocked me harder than I have ever been C-blocked, so I was laughing hardcore.) My point: Our off nights are better than most people's "good" nights.

I will update this and respond to questions. I would like to say that I by no means consider myself a guru, or have reached my pinnacle. What I can say though, is that I love who I am. I am genuine and honest with everybody I meet. I don't lie to people. I find out the truth. Everywhere I go, every girl I meet, I know that I have a shot. This is my reality. Its fucking awesome.

Lastly, I write this because I want you guys to know that its worth it. It really is. Put in the time. Hell, it might take you guys one week to get to where I'm at. Or it might take years. But my goodness is it worth it.

Guys please feel free to add/critique whatever you want. I just had the urge to write, so I wrote.

** I've had some time to reflect. I'd like to add a few things.

I am by no means there yet. If you read my post history, you guys will see that like 8 days ago I was on top of my game. I guess you can say it was a "success." But to be honest, that night sucked because I'm not a shallow dude and one night stands aren't my goal. I got emotionally invested, lost, and was left with the pieces to somehow put back together. It really sucked for a few days, however, looking back on it, it was a fantastic learning experience.

I'm merely an average, everyday dude who, compared to 16 months ago, has made huge progress. However, I still get rejected more than I get laid. That's just how it is! I just don't want people expecting that once you reach a certain level, everything is golden. Not the case. Life can be rough sometimes, however, what separates the great men from the mediocre men is HOW YOU DEAL with situations. When you get rejected, do you immediately start berating yourself and beating yourself up, or do you understand that there is a million reasons why she could have rejected you, and that this game we play is a numbers game. I feel like a ballplayer who raised his average from .150 to .285. Not too bad.