At first I thought I was a loser when I was reading through everyones FRs but I realized I'm not a complete AFC. I've hooked up with chicks (no sex from hooking up yet but I'm not a virgin) and show some level of confidence.

However, I have a lot of things I want to change and I need your help.

First of all, I have a problem approaching completely random girls. I have close to no problems when it comes to approaching a girl that I have something in common with. Mutual friends, a class together, etc. I think the problem is that I feel like I'm instantly showing attraction when I talk to some random chick and I don't like to do that, It makes me feel vulnerable.

So what do I do? I stand around pretending I don't have a care in the world sippin on my drink while secretely hoping some HB will notice that im not hitting on her/ staring at her like every other guy and walk up to me. It has worked but not often at all.

Another thing that I need to work on is my conversation skills. It seems at random points in the conversation I just run out of things to say and once that happens it becomes exponentially more difficult to start the conversation up again. This isn't just with girls but with friends as well.