Not exactly all about seduction and all that, but related. Well, I recently met someone,online, I really like her,she really likes me. Things have been going great,and well, I wouldn't say things are moving too fast per se,but there has been a rush of emotions on both are parts. We both felt rather lonely and such before we met each other,but both seem to be happier that we've met each other, and that's what I wanted to talk about. I know what you're probably thinking about how you need to be happy with yourself first before you meet/go out with someone, and I fully understand, but what I want to ask is basically,where do you find the balance? Let me explain..... So I have been seeing a therapist for a while,it's helped,I know it's up to me to move forward and get better,and that may also be due to add/learning disability. But during the last session, the issue of how and when to move forward,expectations,real and unreal came up,and how that relates to me. What I'm basically asking is,if there is such a thing/limit/amount, to how much self improvement,since that's a subject here,do you need to have until you are your best self? Like self esteem came up during the last session,and how I have felt you have to have the right level so to say before you can move on, and she told me,the therapist,how you can't wait until you have that certain level,know what I mean? And I ask that in how it relates to the idea of self improvement/being your best self in that, how long do you or are you supposed to wait,if at all,for this thing to work? I don't even know why I'm asking seeing how I met someone and I'm happy. I'm getting a little off track here. Ok Ok... Better example: This thread here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mfenj/college_kid_here_needs_advice/ The first comment "Don't set out to get a girlfriend, that is setting yourself up to be dependent on someone else. Set out to become the best version of yourself and become attractive to women in the process. Just kidding, I'm in a similar situation to you, so I have no idea what I'm talking about. It sure sounded nice, though." Actually,I can't think straight right now,got alot on my mind. If I wasn't clear enough,I'll re-edit it later. But do you get the gist of what I'm saying?

For example,one thing that has concerned me is wanting "love/connection/relationship" vs learning how to play the game. Know what I mean? I mean, do you need to wait until you are self improved? Or go and learn as you go etc?