Remember Oneitis? Here's a short reminder.

ENTEENTE · 2011-12-01T01:54:33+00:00

Eye-opener.

ManBehavingBadly · 2011-12-01T07:50:16+00:00

This is all good and true until you actually meet a woman that is a lot better than all the others that you've met up untill now. Usually, I have no problems getting women, I had tens of girlfriends and sex partners and can get pretty much any girl I want.

Now, I'm not saying you should treat her differently because she's special. I know there isn't such a thing as a soulmate or anything similar, or that she's the only one like that, it's just, sometimes you meet a woman that is at the same time very good looking/very successful/very good in bed/good person/smart. Your standard goes way up. And you fall in love again after so much time. What the hell do you do in that situation? You try to win her over, and if it fails you're pretty much fucked. You take a look at all the other women that you know and they just pale in comparison, pale big time. It happens very seldom, but it happens. And you try to find another like her but they're so bloody rare.

Anybody else had this happen to him? I'm currently in a situation like this, I didn't fail yet but the chances are 50/50 that it's gonna turn out good in the end. This girl is actually making me better myself with the goal of becoming more attractive.

thevirtuesofxen · 2011-12-01T06:03:21+00:00

I see oneitis as a fucked up chemical reaction that happens in my brain that I can't truly control. It's just some wack chemistry thing that happens. This is the frame I hold when it descends on me. I just observe my feelings and know that they are not me. I detach myself from it.

Then I will focus on treating the girl like any other girl. Mess with her hair, poke fun, make mindless banter and don't allow my brain to be 'drawn' by her. I have to really concentrate to keep with whatever I'm doing.

Also I remind myself that the HB10 I am lusting over is at the end of the day just another insecure girl. Just a girl. Sure she is hot and commands everyones attention but beneath it all she is still a girl and I'm the dominant man. She's no different than any other girl. She wants to be swept off her feet by the stud dude that treats her like a little sister and doesn't hold her on some kind of pedestal like every other beta guy. This 'frame' has helped me tremendously with really hot women. I have it stamped in my brain. Whenever I get nervous I return to it. Me: dominant male; Her: insecure girl.

pipsqeek · 2011-12-01T03:13:21+00:00

I'm never going to fall in love again after this.

Tarblz · 2011-12-01T03:48:07+00:00

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sagexp · 2011-12-01T05:21:41+00:00

"Treating a woman differently because she’s “special” will repel her." Sounds to me like this person is bitter rather than trying to be informational.

Title	Remember Oneitis? Here's a short reminder.
Author	TonyDAbsolute
Upvotes	51
Comments	14
Date	December 1, 2011 1:29 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/mvhyw/remember_oneitis_heres_a_short_reminder/
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