I Feel Like I'm Regressing!

elai · 2012-01-26T05:58:54+00:00

Go out with friends, with the primary goal of enjoying yourself. Approach some girls while you do that too. Don't make it into a chore. Approach in the fast food shop, approach in the store, just make it part of your day.

maninorbit · 2012-01-26T06:01:35+00:00

I'm in the exact same rut right now. I went on a rampage for a few years and was killing it with girls all over the place. Over the last 18 months I've lost something. I get the occasional girl here and there because we hang out in the same circles and shit like that but my ability to just approach women everyday seems to be shot, or when I do it it's only when I'm in a particularly outgoing mood.

For the first time in a long time I find myself at a loss for openers. I used to have sets just lined up to fire off and I seem to have forgotten what they were (perhaps I've just gotten older and figure those topics aren't worth talking about anymore).

I just started reading seddit and I've sort of come up with a plan of attack.

Decide on three or four openers and I like and try them out.
Drink less. I've been too dependent on alcohol to make me smooth lately. I remember like 2 years ago I decided to go sober and keep the same social schedule that I had before. When you are standing at a party/bar sober you get bored and I would literally think to myself, "What's the worst that can happen, these girls are drunk and probably won't remember me." I also noticed and being sober keeps you sharp and gives you a clear upper hand on being witty and timely with responses. Much less awkward pauses where you try and think of something to say.
Surround myself with a different group of people. I got stuck in a group of AFC's and being surrounded by AFC's isn't helping my game in the slightest bit. So step one, start reading about game again, it worked the first time, I have no doubt it will work again. Step two, pick the happiest out of my friends, even if they are in relationships and hang out with them more often. Being surrounded by genuinely happy people won't allow you to sit at the bar and feel down.
Finally, and most importantly. STOP GIVING A FUCK! For some reason I started worrying about my reputation and what people think of me as of late. I need to fix this and fix it immediately. Literally the comments that I've started to let get to me lately haven't even been that bad. Not to mention once you start to master the game (like I used to) you start to traverse social circles so quickly it doesn't matter, by the time they start to talk about you behind your back you are already on to the next group of people to hang out with.

Well that's what I have planned for myself over the next few weeks. I hope it works. If any of you guys have any more advice for me feel free to tell me because like I mentioned I've been out of the pick-up community for about 3 years now and I'm very very rusty.

AnAdventureCore · 2012-01-26T07:54:18+00:00

It's a small hill you just have to keep pushing to get over.

All apart of the mastery process. Fight homeostasis.

Delightful_White · 2012-01-26T20:37:29+00:00

Winter in NYC is weird. Everybody is miserable, school is back in session, and most girls stay indoors where it's warm, cuddled up with their winter boyfriends to keep warm and get steady dick during their hibernation.

I had a similar episode last year around the same time. Don't sweat it. Spring is coming soon enough. The girls will be back out and horny again when they can wear their sexy dresses and show some skin.

Trust me.

Title	I Feel Like I'm Regressing!
Author	nycprowl
Upvotes	8
Comments	5
Date	January 26, 2012 5:24 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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