I am in an open marriage where my spouse and I are allowed to see other people. I can have full, loving relationships if that is where I choose to take it. I have two main obstacles right out of the gate.

1) I am very limited on time. I have 3 kids, and my wife goes to school nights and some weekends, which means I am usually either working or watching my kids. More than that, I need to reserve time to spend with my wife, and some weekends are taken up my in-laws etc. tl;dr: I can only invest about one weekend a month in this.

2) Women are turned off when they find out I am married. I am in a bind here, because girls who are good, honest people that I might really like to get to know will automatically assume that I am some douche looking to cheat. I don't flaunt my status, but I don't hide it either. I wear my wedding ring, but I also wear another ring on the other hand so my status is a bit ambiguous.

Does anyone know of any resources specifically for meeting women while married, or short on time? Any advice?