Hey guys – so, another weekend, another update. I seem to be slowly but surely making progress in the clubs.

Last saturday I went and actually met a dude that seemed like he'd be a good wing, so we went to the clubs last night with some of his friends. I got there first and started playing pool against a guy who was just playing by himself. We ended up on the same team and won against a couple different people. One of the teams we played was this guy and girl, who I will name “K”. I started chatting with them and found out it was their first date. Just asked how they met and such. During the conversation we somehow get to the topic of guys trying to find girls to dance with, and how hard it is, and I say to her “I wish you could be a guy for a day”, and she said “whatever, you should try being a girl”. After that she playfully slapped my butt and said something else, although the club was loud and I couldn't hear it. But, after the slap I was just like “yup, I do squats”. This may be my hopeful ego talking but I swear she gave me looks several times during the game that just said to me “I wish I were here with you instead” – like this partially sad, partially “i want you” look. I loved it. Once the game was done I encouraged them to go dance together and continued playing pool (my team won).

Then finally the sort-of-wing showed up with his friends. I lost my next game and went to go see them at the bar. Him and I went up to this group of 3 girls and I managed to pull the petite one out and dance with her. She was really nervous because she said she didn't know how to dance. But I was happy to lead. We went straight to front-to-back and did that for a couple minutes, then I turned her around and tried to front grind a little. After a couple more minutes she said it was too hot and she had to go outside. The way I thought she said it, it seemed like she didn't want to dance with me anymore, but now as I write this I realize maybe she was alluding that I go outside with her. If that is the case, I am a moron. Who knows :).

So, I wandered around for another 20 minutes or so looking for another girl. I saw K again with her date at the bar. I was excited to see them and was like YOU GUYS SHOULD BE DANCING!!! They didn't want to, but then K looked at me and suggested we dance. I looked at both of them and hesitated to say yes, I didn't want to start any crap and ruin their date. But he seemed to have a “whatever” attitude so I grabbed her hand and we danced for a couple of minutes. I looked over to where he was and saw him starting to walk away. I felt so bad lol. She went after him and I just left from that. So, I feel like I ruined their first date. In a sick sort of way though I'd rather be “that” guy then be the guy having to watch his date grind up on some other dude. Because I've felt the pain of the latter on several occasions.

Maybe not even a minute later I'm wandering around, and this girl and I crash into eachother. She said “Sorry!” and I just started acting sarcastically indignant, like “HOW DARE YOU”. She just stood there and looked at me and smiled. It seemed like it was so on, so I suggested we dance. We went straight to front grind and she was just hanging off of me really close. It was intoxicating, because I generally feel somewhat touch-starved, and our bodies were in complete contact. Somewhere during the beginning, just because of the way we were dancing I just really wanted to start making out with her. But I was afraid go for it, because we hadn't really built any comfort whatsoever, and I've never done anything like that, and I was afraid of a possible negative reaction. I didn't know whether to shut up and just dance or to try building comfort with her. But I regretfully started complimenting her, saying she was cute and she smelled really good. I probably looked needy. Which I am though. She went to go see her friends a few minutes after that.

After that I wandered around for another 20 minutes or so and didn't really see any girls I was attracted to and were available to be approached, so I left around 1:30.

So here are my thoughts on last night. My relative success is increasing but I have no model for how this stuff is supposed to happen, at all. I wanted to find a girl that wanted to dance with me for a while, but they all left me quickly. I don't know if this is normal, to dance for only a couple of minutes, or if they're not feeling it with me with my dancing. The girl K seemed especially into me but maybe turned off after a couple minutes. I learned by watching videos from pickupdance.com and similar videos on youtube. They all seem to indicate the man is supposed to lead when grinding. So, for men with good dance game, what do you do? Do you let the woman lead and you follow her hips with yours? Do you try to lead her? Or do you try to “meet halfway”? Do you go in circles or side to side? This seems to be stuff a lot of men intuitively pick up on, but I do not.

Any thoughts and comments as to what you guys think was up during anything last night, please let me know.