Seddit, what are some things a guy needs to know/do when getting in a relationship?

AMerrickanGirl · 2012-03-10T21:45:43+00:00

Don't make her your sole reason for existence.

Maintain your separate interests but be there for her.

Learn how to talk about your feelings and needs openly without seeing this as a "confrontation."

Remember that most women need emotional connection to get them in a sexy mood as opposed to simple visual or physical stimulation.

youbetyourbippy · 2012-03-10T23:46:47+00:00

To keep a relationship interesting be flirty. A lot of people think that once you're in a serious relationship that some seduction rules get thrown out the window. Remain flirty with her, be playful, and ultimately be yourself.

thendrill · 2012-03-10T19:48:48+00:00

Be nice. Don't be too nice. Don't be an asshole.

petesler · 2012-03-11T12:25:30+00:00

Posted this in another thread that was similar.

We're talking about a new SO, right? There's a lot of basic stuff that will probably be covered, so I think I'm going to stick with one thing in particular that doesn't get brought up too much.

Most people have a tendency to look at their SO through rose-tinted glasses. Both men and women do this. What this entails is overlooking their flaws and exaggerating their good points. Sometimes we think that our new SO meets every one of our criteria for what makes the perfect mate, but this is almost never the case. My advice is to try to keep a realistic view of your new SO. It's easy to become enamored.

There's a flip side to this as well. How many people have you known who fell head-over-heels for someone only to hate that person's guts after a break up. Suddenly that guy or girl who was caring, motivated, great in bed(every positive attribute under the sun) a few months ago is a selfish, lazy, blah, blah you get the idea. It's a defense mechanism that gets used far too often, because we sometimes exaggerate people.

Value your SO for who she is, not who she could be and your relationship will be happier and healthier. Hope that's the type of stuff you were looking for.

2012-03-12T04:16:54+00:00

Don't stop doing the things you did that attracted her to begin with. Don't think "well now that I've got her, I don't need to game(don't like using this word in this context) her anymore."

carlosdglez · 2012-03-10T21:13:00+00:00

Look up "miranda rights"

traditional_girl · 2012-03-10T16:58:13+00:00

Well to keep HER interested the very best advice is: Tease her! Be playful with her as often as you can. I think you'll find this list of Roissy's old articles on LTRs very helpful: http://www.rooshv.com/top-15-game-tips-for-long-term-relationships (I think all of it is dead on except the "touch initiation" article, where he talks about how the ratio of female touch to male touch should be as high as possible. This just isn't true for shy girls -- not for me, not for my friends.)

Leelluu · 2012-03-10T18:57:41+00:00

Wouldn't it make more sense to ask women, seeing as it's a woman that you want to please?

Title	Seddit, what are some things a guy needs to know/do when getting in a relationship?
Author	pandatits
Upvotes	17
Comments	28
Date	March 10, 2012 4:00 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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