Advice for someone who can't keep/start a conversation?

NickTDS · 2012-03-14T15:58:49+00:00

The only solution is experience. You need to learn how to express your most attractive self in various situations and that only happens with time and effort. If you say you don't know how to begin, it means you haven't approached enough.

Start talking to everyone you meet -- it's the best thing I ever did. Girls on the bus, in line at Starbucks, at bookstores, and across the bar. Speak to grocery store cashiers, people in the elevator, toll booth operators, everyone. In no time you'll start to feel less nervous, be in the moment instead of stuck in your head, and words will flow much easier.

Check out my basics for good conversation and take action. Don't keep reading seduction forums and material all day long. Understanding the concepts is important, but it doesn't matter if you never apply them.

30vanquish · 2012-03-14T16:54:56+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/

Conversational Threading.

2012-03-14T22:46:02+00:00

It's obviously important to keep a conversation. However, I've found that woman that are interested in you will fill those gaps and most women like to talk a lot. You'll get better at conversing but just know you don't have to speak the majority of the time. At first, just try steering the conversation to topics you know you can converse about. Also, silences are actually a way to build attraction. When you have a moment of silence look her in the eyes and smile. It can be a powerful tool. Also, don't get in your head so much trying to THINK of what to say. Be in the moment and it will come naturally.

arkitip · 2012-03-15T02:42:44+00:00

One thing is to ask questions about what the person is saying. Now don't take it too far or you draw a topic out for too long. Example:
"I go to this school."
"Oh that's cool, what program/classes are you taking?"
"blah blah blah"
"So you want to be a lion tamer? I love animals, whats your favorite kind?"
( this example is terrible and I am sorry for that )
When you ask people questions about what they are saying they will divulge more and more information. And if there is one thing that I know its that people LOVE talking about them selves. I have had people fall in love with me because I listen to their shit, nod, and ask questions or add to it.

Another thing to remember is that when people are talking its not really what they are saying that is important but the emotion behind it. If I wanted to pass information on to you I could give you a piece of paper and be done with it. A lot of the time people are trying to convey how they feel about something. Don't just hear the words, hear the message.

One more thing, it doesn't really matter what you say. I am sure that you can pick up if some one does not want to talk you but other wise people don't really care. You can talk about banana's or cats or your class. Just keep it appropriate given the context.

YOUdunnoWHOiAM · 2012-03-14T17:12:50+00:00

/thread

both replies are the best that I have ever read (and I've been trying to find something on conversation for a while)

2012-03-14T20:08:41+00:00

As an introvert who always doesn't know what to say, I find that in the rare occasion that I become talkative, I act very impulsively for whatever I want to say. My mind is more synced to the surrounding atmosphere, and everything just flows. If there's something I want to ask, I speak up instead of wondering whether the question is too lame or not.

It helps to naturally be in a confident state. You speaks slower and clearer, and are more likely to be heard and responses to.

The only times I become as smooth is when I am forced out by comfort zone to talk to people and realize that most people enjoy a good conversation - one that involves talking about themselves.

rainbowfalcon · 2012-03-14T22:11:22+00:00

The big one is to not filter yourself so much. Just say what comes to mind, and don't worry about whether it sounds too lame or unoriginal or boring.

Another piece of advice you'll hear a lot of to just be a good listener and get the other person talking. This tip is a bit overrated, though it does work if you catch someone who has something they want to go on about.

Title	Advice for someone who can't keep/start a conversation?
Author	adianlorenzana
Upvotes	31
Comments	11
Date	March 14, 2012 3:29 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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