So this is sort of a follow-on to another FR I posted recently:

http://www.reddit.com/r/DCSeddit/comments/v826l/fr_tuesday_in_clarendon/

EDIT: Worth noting that the two dudes from that prior FR are now area community regulars, have very strong abilities, and are fun to hang out with. One guy's going to hook me up with his co-worker, etc. Don't be afraid to open dudes at bars, it's not gay, everyone wants friends, and you never know what will come of it. In this case, I got a solid date, another potential hook-up, and two new friends. Life is grand.

The girl from this FR is the same one I met during that one. The date kept getting pushed back due to my business travel, and we just finally went out last night. Since that last FR, we've been texting back and forth and she seems pretty pressed. Sending me 2-3 texts in a row rapid-fire, sending me loooong rambling texts, etc. She's cute too, solid 7.5 redhead, so I figured this was going to be a decent date, even for a Monday.

So I met this girl at a favorite swanky bar that's become my de facto "meeting spot" for first dates. It sets a nice vibe, but I almost never stay there.

She's posted up right by the door at the bar, sipping some kind of crazy cocktail, and I sidle up and take the stool right next to her. I'd pulled it in pretty close just because it's loud, but she's wearing this tiny black skirt and immediately rests her legs on mine up against the bar and doesn't move them for half an hour. This is how I knew from the outset that I was good to go. We talk BS through the first round of drinks, then agree to close out and move on to another bar that she's apparently fond of.

She's rambling something about her family on the way there, something I geniunely found funny, and when she was done I just leaned over and kissed her while we were walking. DON'T WAIT FOR SOME PERFECT MOMENT, just get in there, and get it out of the way early. This totally killed the tension, IMO, and I think she appreciated that.

Second bar we get some french fries that she said were going to be great, they were limp, so I accused her of liking her fries flaccid, etc etc, innuendo, blah blah. Another couple drinks, some more kissing.

I pull her into a third bar next door, took some convincing because she was sort of rambling about going home, kino really ramps up, lots of ass grabbage, more kissing right at the bar, etc. We have a genuinely interesting conversation about baseball, which gave me massive wood, and then we decided to bounce out.

I figured I wasn't fucking this chick on a Monday night, and sure enough we parted ways after leaving the bar, but only after she thoroughly molested me on a public street for a few blocks. I made damned sure to insinuate that I'd LIKE to go home with her though, because leaving ambiguity is for pussies.

I went home feeling pretty good, second date on Thursday night, looking forward to it.

HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Innuendo is key. Be dirty, but not directly so.

  • Let her talk about herself, don't interrupt, don't try to one-up her. Don't be so caught up in "being alpha" that you make the date not fun for the girl.

  • Compliance tests are fucking key. Always be screening. I'd tested her a few times (asking for a sip of her drink, having her spin around, etc) before I kissed her. I KNEW I was going to be A-OK, because she was complying with lots of little subtle shit.

  • Venue hopping is great, i.e. time compression. We hit three bars in three hours, she'll have good varied memories of the date the next day, and by the last bar it seemed like we were on our third date.

  • Kino as soon as possible, but subtly, then ramp up like a champion. Remove any and all doubt that you are on a DATE, you're not there to hang out. You like her and you want to get physical, and you want her to know you're testing the waters, because that takes balls and she'll respect it, as long as you don't cave rape her (haha username haha I know fuckers).

~fin~