So you've built rapport with at several OKC messages. She's comfortable enough to give you her number and you send a few more texts back and forth. This is very important to my game, getting her number before you meet. It means you've established not only attraction but comfort.

Don't ever forget that even the first meeting is a date, not a social appointment. Even if it's just for coffee, she's framing the situation as a romantic triste, so should you.

Avoid movies at all costs, unless it's a movie in the park type thing. You can't make a worthwhile emotional/animal connection in a dark theater.

It's ok to have a casual first meetup. No need to blow her socks off with some elaborately planned wine and dine thing with violinists and a swan boat ride. The key is to not try so hard and be able to make any situation a fun date. Go frisbee golfing, a walk around the lake, happy hour beers, wine or whiskey (the women that like good whiskey are keepers) tasting, rock wall climbing, etc.

Remember, she's been on a bunch of typical dates with a bunch of typical guys. Be impressive but simple.

The day of the date, an hour or two beforehand, take a hot shower and scrub your body like you've been contaminated with radiation. Manscape your junk. This is 2012 and women don't want to deal with your wolverine bush down there. Put on some flattering clothes and maybe add a little flair. A brightly colored watch, or a bowtie perhaps, if that's your style. The "No fucks given" approach to grooming doesn't apply to OKC. She's not a stranger, remember? You've developed a rapport with her already. I wont go any further because Seddit already has good grooming resources. Clean your home, clear your clutter, and take down your shitty movie posters and velvet paintings. I had a girl ask me if my apartment was professionally decorated and was obviously impressed when I said no. Read a design book and make your home look like a real man lives there.

When you meet her, give her a hug, a kiss on the cheek, or hold her hand with yours above and below like a sandwich while you smile, look into her eyes, and tell her "Your hair/shoes/outfit" looks great. If she's late, don't sweat it. Tease her about it for sure, because she already broke the rules, but it's easier to assume she spent a few extra minutes looking good just for you.

Now you can treat it like a mini-date. Be charming, ask open ended questions about herself. Bring up a topic you already have a little dialog on in your messages/texts. Have good body language and be very friendly with strangers around you. Bring them into your conversation for a few moments. She needs to know you aren't socially retarded or a serial killer.

Kino her. Kino everyone a little so that touching another human being becomes as natural as smiling.

Be honest about your relationship expectations. If she's looking for an LTR to get married and have babies, don't be afraid to tell her that's not your plan. She will respect this and may even decide she wants to take a break from husband hunting and just have one night of freaky fun.

The two of you should have already been joking about slightly or overt sexual themes. Keep that up, but don't be creepy. Also, start your date with plenty of time to take things back to your place and avoid the I have to work tomorrow/I'm tired excuse. If you've given her reasons to like you and be attracted to you, she will have no problem going to your place for drinks, music, or a movie (it's ok this time too because you both know what this usually means).

One more thing. Always have condoms and some good lube handy. Don't be that guy that expects her to be carrying it.

Here's my most recent near disaster: Once the sex is over, don't rush her out the door. I did this inadvertently and made her feel cheap. I was exhausted and thought the shower afterwards was enough afterplay. It wasn't. Spend some time in bed or on the couch chatting. Kiss her a lot, she just gave you a very important piece of herself and you just busted out all your best moves to give her pleasure. If she wants to treat it like a BC and bounce right after, that's up to her, but being a gentleman is a must. I ate a lot of crow and apologized profusely. Everything is cool again now and I can hold my head high once more.

Hoped this helped the online dating segment of Seddit. Good luck out there!