The best advice I can give:

Timlikesturtles · 2012-07-16T13:25:23+00:00

I actually spent years operating under this assumption, but experience has taught me that it is an over-simplified approach. If you smile a lot, which it sounds like you do OP, then I'm sure you're the type of guy who is fun to hang out with and be around. However, few women will feel attraction to a guy who isn't "acting through his own intentions". If you smile excessively and at times where it wouldn't be your natural reaction to hearing something, then a woman can sense that you emotions do not match up with your behavior and that you are forcing something. Don't get me wrong, I am definitely in favor of smiling more often than not. But I think that it is important to avoid over-doing it and to not smile ingenuinely during a conversation/interaction when it is not appropriate.

kreptlol · 2012-07-16T06:20:59+00:00

smiling is powerful as fuck :)

lord_khadow · 2012-07-16T11:24:23+00:00

I was given this advice years ago.

Girls will be drawn to someone who is looking like he's having a good time... Not mr frowny-face.

So keep smiling! :)

cheekymonkey314 · 2012-07-16T13:16:10+00:00

I've heard this advice before and I try to do it but I struggle with smiling, I don't smile much unless I'm in the right mood. Does anyone have tips on how to practice and make it look genuine? Thinking of something that makes me smile doesn't work in the moment and faking it looks, well fake. I only seem to smile a lot when drunk, a bit of anxiety perhaps.

humbertog · 2012-07-16T13:40:38+00:00

Daigo, are you listening?

2012-07-16T15:15:13+00:00

Go beyond that even... Look at all the women in their eyes. And say "hi"

Or even give the bro nod. You know the move the head up and say "sup". Just little things like this help you exert confidence.

theoctopuss · 2012-07-16T08:24:14+00:00

Make sure you have a nice smile

nobody2000 · 2012-07-16T22:04:55+00:00

Honest smiling portrays you as someone who's having a good time.

People are clearly attracted to people who have a good time.

People also can detect false smiles. There's a way around this...

Some time ago, I made an effort to watch video and catch myself in the mirror with a genuine smile. I made note of how my face looked, and how I felt while doing it. I practiced my 'fake' smile, and got it down pat.

Now I can "fake" a smile pretty solidly. For me, if my eyes squint a little bit, and my mouth opens up while showing teeth, it looks genuine. Don't smile unless you're showing your teeth - it's hard to portray that you're having a good time. A smile without teeth makes you look uncomfortable.

But here's the beauty - if you smile like that, you tend to have a good time regardless. The magnetism of a good smile is powerful.

Sociable60102 · 2012-07-16T17:01:08+00:00

One thing I have found works the best. Find something you are passionate about, and then become the best you possibly fucking can at it. Diego Rivera was fat and ugly, but he rocked the shit out of painting and women just ate it up! He probably smiled a lot too though

itbesteve · 2012-07-16T18:32:06+00:00

I think the idea is that smiling is contagious and easy to do. Not only will smiling put you in a better mood, but it will do the same to the people around you.

blinksc2 · 2012-07-16T19:30:11+00:00

noticed that friday night in a club... IT WAS AWESOME!

cchockley · 2012-07-17T02:29:01+00:00

I agree with this to an extent. I don't think you should full out smile all the time because you will over do it like people are saying. I like to walk around with a little half smile on all the time so I look happy but I save full big smiles for people that I am trying to interact with. Lets me look happy most of the time but still show people they are special by escalating it. Pair this with solid eye contact and you can do half of the work with girls before you even say a single word to them.

KeroKeroKeroppi · 2012-07-17T03:15:50+00:00

I think I actually had a problem with smiling too much heh. Now, when I'm in a conversation I try to be a bit more stoic and make them earn my smile..

Not sure, If I'm just overthinking things though :p

2012-07-16T15:49:44+00:00

I don't think there's any need to condense all our knowledge into one piece of advice. I mean, we're in Seddit, we love talking in depth about all kinds of stuff. Smiling's great, but is part of a larger concept of having fun, which is still only a part of picking up girls.

There's many other concepts that stand out: Be louder, sort out logistics, approach immediately, escalate physically, make yourself as physically attractive as possible, etc. that are worth talking about.

In my estimation, the most important concept for a guy who's out there doing the damn thing is to escalate physically. You do it enough, you will get laid.

Title	The best advice I can give:
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Date	July 16, 2012 6:02 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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