Seduction in the workplace?

squarehouse · 2012-09-29T19:37:55+00:00

My goal is to have fun, to be social, and yeah, I'd like to be the most common answer to the question "if you could be with any guy in the office, who would it be?"

In that case, here's what I do:

Kino my co-workers, mostly female ones. I'll do it to everyone, whether they are HB's or not. I like to work up to hug-closing HB's at work. Usually just shoulder hugs. When I hug women at work though, they give me tight hugs. This is because I basically use the escalation latter, starting with when we're shoulder to shoulder, my fingers just barely glaze her fingers/hand. You just have to be the guy who women are comfortable being in physical proximity to.
Be aloof/non-reactive. I'm actually kind of loud and boisterous at work, give people a hard time, but they know I'm just having a good time. Never apologize, unless you seriously injured someone somehow. Own everything you say or do without deprecating yourself.
I've developed a very alpha persona at work. I'm actually pretty low on the totem pole, but the key is that I work hard. I actually do a very good job at work. And I mean...do a good job in respect to those aspects of your job that are actually meaningful, or you find meaningful, not corporate or bureaucratic nonsense. Co-workers are either impressed or intimidated by me, and hopefully both.
On the last point, be consistent. If you want to be seen as the alpha, then you really can't seem to have any weaknesses. Don't give excuses. No "I'm just not having a good day today" or "I'm just tired today"...even if they are true. Don't say "I've done the best that I can do", rather say "I did awesome today, and I don't care what anyone else thinks." Don't even say the part after the comma.
At work, you need to be the guy on a mission. Your mission, of course, is your life, and your job is an important part of your mission. Don't be the guy who seems to be loitering at work, who likes to go around talking to the girls.
As a supplement to the last point, body language. Your body language needs to look like you are self-possessed, that you're on a mission, that you're full of energy even when you're not. Normal things apply: Don't talk or walk too fast, keep your chin up, don't spend all your time with your arms crossed or looking at the ground. Master eye contact.
Never be a single guy. If anyone asks if you're seeing someone, say yes, or sometimes I treat it as a shit test and say I'm seeing multiple someone's.
This is something new I'm discovering, and I don't know how much it really applies to your question, but in terms of body language: Try the shoulder-to-shoulder pose while walking with a co-worker. I'll talk to my co-worker while looking ahead of me. Women seem to do this instinctively, because this is how they walk with their SO's. Treat looking at your co-worker as a reward to them, or as punctuation of what you are saying, especially when talking in a group. This just makes you more interesting, and can cause them to vie for your attention.

Good luck. But yeah, don't escalate at work.

beastenator · 2012-09-29T19:47:31+00:00

I'll tell you what my wizard brother told me "Never kiss where you mix your potions, becuase there is a good chance it might blow up in your face."

2012-09-29T21:45:57+00:00

Rule 1: Do not dip your pen in the company's ink.

LouisWinthorpIII · 2012-09-29T20:50:29+00:00

Whoever is advocating work game is either slow or young and naive. In almost every single case I've seen, it ends poorly. Sometime VERY poorly. Trust me it is not worth it. There are sooooo many girls out there. If you avoid trying to pick up co-workers, your quality of life will be much better. I also work in finance, so this shit isn't tolerated well by management anyway.

DeterminedToOffend · 2012-09-29T22:01:27+00:00

"Don't shit where you eat"

Christafarian · 2012-09-30T00:29:26+00:00

Probably your best move is to make friends with those girls, so they can connect you with their friends who don't work at your office.

smasterson · 2012-09-30T01:33:56+00:00

I believe that there is a place in the workplace for subtle banter. I would never pull the trigger and close, though (which you wisely seem to want to avoid). But I've built some great working relationships and fiends based on sexual tension. Just keep up the impression that you're innocent to the implications of what you're saying. To quote Stephen Sondheim be, "[A] flirt, but never a threat." It's a high-wire act, with an unpredictable ROI, so I wouldn't necessarily recommend it. But it's not impossible, and has contributed greatly to my professional success. YMMV.

2012-09-30T00:42:19+00:00

I smell trouble brewing.

buckian · 2012-09-30T01:27:37+00:00

You can get easily fired in the workplace for sexual harassment, so be careful. Like most people, I spend a significant amount of time in the office. The days goes much easier if I could flirt with some of the women...I think that the real key is to find out which women will tolerate that type of behavior. I flirted with the human resources officer when we were going over the company's sexual harassment policy..and she liked it. I do not flirt with the marketing girl because she has a history of filing sexual harassment complaints...

I am far from an expert in these matters, but what I normally do to find out if a woman is receptive to this type of behavior without getting blown out of the water, is to slowly invade her personal space. If we are going over a proposal (or whatever) together, at sometime during the discussion, I will say something and touch her upper arm or somewhere nonsexual...if we are looking at a computer screen, I'll pretend that I can't see the screen well and lean it, so we are close together.....based upon her reaction to these 'innocent' actions, I will act accordingly...if when I lean in to her space, she backs out, well then the game is over...I don't want to get fired over this...

There is this one woman who I like very much. We don't really talk about sex too much, but she really lets me invade her personal space...one time she was standing at my desk looking at something on my computer screen. I needed to get something on my desk, so I stood behind her, told her to stay right there, then leaned over to get the papers and rubbed my erect cock all over her ass....she just stood there like nothing is going on....neither of us ever talked about this to each other...when I go to her office to look at a document or something, I stoop down so I am at her level (she is sitting) and lean in real close and put my arm around her etc...she lets me do this...I never tried to kiss her or anything though...the only thing is that she wont go out with me...she is married, so I guess that has something to do with it...I don't know how to escalate this...any advice?

rysryan · 2012-09-30T00:06:19+00:00

[permanently deleted]

Title	Seduction in the workplace?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	12
Comments	17
Date	September 29, 2012 6:26 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10ocpy/seduction_in_the_workplace/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/seduction-in-the-workplace.1340291 https://theredarchive.com/post/1340291

Comments