Day 1: I am going to the mall today to start trying to get practice with opening. Looking for some helpful tidbits.

JustinJensen · 2012-11-13T02:50:45+00:00

Some of my favorite exercises to do are to go shopping (or pretend I'm shopping) and ask the sales girls what they think of the clothes on me. I like to pick out some ridiculous things I would never wear and some things I would actually wear.

Another one I like to do is go to the grocery store and ask the cute clerk where the surfboards are at.

One I have only done a couple of times (but was rewarding) was going to a public place with high walking traffic and with pad of paper and pen ask people to list 3 things they first noticed about me. Have them write them down and sign it. I open them with saying that I'm in an improv class and we're doing an exercise regarding first impressions.

2012-11-13T01:15:47+00:00

Employees will typically initiate a conversation with you which might help you get a little more comfortable. So it's not very challenging to talk to one, but it can be a challenge to steer the conversation away from their job duties. Talk about something other than their store.

Also, it's holiday season. The mall is generally busier this time of year. People are at the mall on a mission, so don't get discouraged if they're not interested in stopping to chat. Just move on to the next friendly face.

prunck · 2012-11-13T01:47:44+00:00

I find it helpful sometimes to warm up first. Walk around an area that has a moderate to low amount of foot traffic and just look people in the eye and greet them as you pass. You have a very limited window of interaction time, so you don't have a lot of time to think about it too much.

When you get into the mall, do something similar, but maybe add a "quick question" onto it, something like "where is xyz store?". When they tell you, say thanks and move on.

After you start to feel in the zone, maybe do some clothes shopping. Ask people which of these shirts looks better on you, or for some recommendations for other good stores to check out. Make some comments about things you notice. Whatever feels comfortable, really, as long as you say somthing. One of my strengths, I'd like to think, is thinking on my feet, so I don't generally rely on lines. I also find that having planned what I want to say makes the opening less comfortable and natural. But if you think it helps you, pick a couple of questions that make for easy conversation starters. But also mix it up and be spontaneous, see how not planning your opener changes how the conversation flows.

I wouldn't say there are any "DO NOTS" when starting out. You shouldn't worry about getting numbers or anything like that (unless you find yourself in an enjoyable conversation, then by all means, ask). Just practice saying things to people, whatever comes to mind. The first few approaches are the hardest, I find. It gets easier after that, and the rush of approaching the first few times is worth pushing through the early fear.

The most important thing is as soon as you decide on something you want to say to someone, just say it. If you dwell on it too long, you will talk yourself out of it, hence the 3 second rule. In fact, if I am particularly nervous about saying something to someone, I literally count to 3 in my head, while making a deal with myself that once I hit 3 I have to say whatever it is. Because I am busy counting to 3, I don't give my brain a chance to analyze what I am about to say. Unless you are frightening to the point of making children cry, you will likely get all neutral to positive responses regardless of what you say.

Just remember: stand up straight, make eye contact, smile, talk.

Good luck.

kingcal · 2012-11-13T04:19:13+00:00

Don't think of seduction as a can of lines you can just pick from. That stuff almost always comes off as incredibly cheesy, and girls don't dig it. When you open a girl, you can either be indirect -- such as asking the time, directions, etc... -- or direct -- "Hey, you are gorgeous, I had to talk to you." I usually go indirect with something situational -- "Is this store any good?" If you really can't think of something, just go up and say "hi". People aren't as scary as you think they are. Go up with a smile on your face and you'll get one back.

ttimebomb · 2012-11-13T07:03:03+00:00

1 rule if you are new. Just approach. Thats it don't worry about the rest of it. The rest of it will come. Just approach and you are already doing more than 99% of guys out there.

I personally love doing Pickup at Wal-mart. Its very easy to start a conversation with girls, just mention something about the product they are looking at or the aisle they are in or something.

Important Tips: In order for the conversation to be meaningful at all you MUST ask for her name, preferably as soon possible (I like to wait until there is a small dead moment and I'm not sure what else to say)

If you see a girl that you want to approach but have nothing to say, then do not chicken out! These are the best sets and you should eagerly approach these girls! My default line, when I have nothing else to say is "Hi. I just thought you were really cute and I had to talk to you", gets a laugh everytime.

IWantToChangeMyLife · 2012-11-13T23:04:29+00:00

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SSOLM · 2012-11-14T00:21:32+00:00

Start with a compliment..Say :Girl do you have a driving license cause you drive me crazy xD...No just kidding..just be smooth and start with a (another)compliment

Title	Day 1: I am going to the mall today to start trying to get practice with opening. Looking for some helpful tidbits.
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Date	November 12, 2012 11:08 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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1 rule if you are new. Just approach. Thats it don't worry about the rest of it. The rest of it will come. Just approach and you are already doing more than 99% of guys out there.