I started lurking here about a month and a half ago and I've really improved a lot of things significantly. For example, at our college football games (at a major university with a good team) I've had a lot of success getting good conversation and a lot of positive feedback. I've become the guy that after the team scores tries to high five every person that is within reason (sometimes I go up a few rows and high five people if I can). It naturally starts leading to conversation with people around me and I could tell that the way girls acted around me really changed a lot. I became the loud opinionated guy that didnt give a fuck and got some pretty good laughs over things I've said - every now and then the entire section would look back and laugh at something I would say. Unfortunately, football season is over and I started it late in the season. It's made me realize that I don't have a big issue with AA... when I can come up with an excuse for my approach. I've been really working at trying to approach girls on my way to classes or things of that nature, but I have a hard time figuring out how to do it. So if anybody has any advice for situations like that, that would be great. I guess when I don't have the automatic in with someone I have a hard time figuring out how to initiate things before the opportunity has passed.

The other thing I'm struggling with is when to naturally get #-closes. Back to my football game experiences, there have been some attractive girls around me that were at least somewhat interested in me, but I'm struggling with knowing when I should go for the number... I've gotten girls numbers before but I always felt like I knew the person much better before I got the numbers. So for example I used to have success with girls that were in my classes (but I am done with my core classes - not many girls in my engineering classes). It would naturally flow to the point where Id get their phone numbers and progress over time. Now, everything seems so much faster I don't know when to go for it.

Too be clear I've met girls that weren't at football games and had the same problems with the #-closes for the same reasons. My social circle used to be more limited (pretty much always hung out with the same friends), but I've been working on expanding that.

Anyways, I feel like if I can get these two things down I will be in pretty good shape. I used to be very passive, but I've definitely become more of a decision maker, really made an identity for myself, worked on not giving a fuck, got some good posture and body language skills down that I didn't have, had success with Kino, really invested in myself more, etc.