What to do when falling out of state?

TheLordG · 2012-12-10T01:02:24+00:00

I feel you man, this happened to me last night and it sucks. Some things I suggest are going to a quiet place, bathroom, somewhere you can be alone. Do some basic breathing exercises to get rid of negativity. Do some jumping jacks or something physical to amp yourself up.

Would not recommend yelling to amp yourself up. Especially if you are in the bathroom. Might scare some people.

jeffjassky · 2012-12-10T04:38:17+00:00

Theres a very easy technique for this that I have been doing lately. Once the climax of your conversation happens - just step away for a while. Go talk to your friends or some other people. She will see that you're awesome, not enthralled/needy, fun, sociable guy and she will want more. So after 10, 20, 45 minutes, you've reset yourself, re-engage and keep it up! The last thing you want to do is make her bored.

TL;DR If you feel your thoughts/direction dwindling even a little - just break off, reset yourself, and reengage.

SpaceNeedler · 2012-12-10T02:43:18+00:00

Have an object in your pocket to remind you that you're on sarge duty. A coin, a lighter, a pack of gum, whatever - your talisman.

july25 · 2012-12-10T02:25:38+00:00

Approach more and focus on the fact that you're the shit. Stop analysing your state, that's fucking retarded, puts you into your head. Focus on having fun in the interaction and in the night in general.

2012-12-10T02:34:32+00:00

the trick in this case is to bring up stories, routines, memorized lines. basically bring up something you know works and it will change her mindset

allinnow · 2012-12-10T01:47:36+00:00

ask a question

LemonCent · 2012-12-10T00:44:29+00:00

Change the subject.

Kidcurry · 2012-12-10T04:57:35+00:00

if look on the top post on seddit there is TED video regarding body language and how it evokes certain emotions/feelings within you.

One thing that they recommended in the video to feel more confident or alpha is mimic confident gestures. For example, when you're out of state go into the bathroom, put your hands on your hips, push your chest out, and just stand there for like 2 minutes in that exact position. You should feel more confident.

Make sure you lock the door beforehand.

TheWaywardBus · 2012-12-10T16:33:55+00:00

I'll often dance in place, scanning the space. It gets back me into my body, and it demonstrates I'm comfortable enough to take up some space creatively. Bonus points for making eye contact with strangers and starting a conversation simply for dancing.

Sometimes just standing on one foot does wonders. Improves balance and leg strength passively also.

2012-12-10T20:11:33+00:00

Jack Donaghy

2012-12-10T00:57:23+00:00

High five everyone in the most creative way you can

2012-12-10T03:30:59+00:00

I'm sure I'll get downvoted for this again, but state doesn't exist, at least not to the extent that it's anything different than one's mood.

If you're in a shitty mood about something because your drink is taking too long or the girl is boring or the venue sucks, this isn't a "drop in state", this is a slow waitress, a boring bitch, or a crap bar.

Creative, dynamic, interesting, and chaotic people aren't like that all the time, no one is like anything all the time. Sometimes you flatline a little, it isn't a problem, that's just life.

Now, if this is happening more often around girls than it does the rest of the time, it isn't your mood, it has something to do with your self-confidence being lower than it should be, as the presence of girls is affecting you and it shouldn't. You just need to spend more time around sexy girls, and there's no "state boost" answer we can give you on Reddit that's going to be a substitute for that.

MadSoulSK · 2012-12-10T10:27:47+00:00

When I feel out of state, I stop being out of state and start be awesome instead. True story.

Title	What to do when falling out of state?
Author	Pure_Ambition
Upvotes	41
Comments	24
Date	December 10, 2012 12:41 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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