Taking a step back: the more experience you gain in-field, the less you approach.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-01-05T21:02:57+00:00

This is a good sign. When I first started practicing approaches in clubs, I would hit maybe 15 or 20 in a night, because I was blowing out of sets quickly. Now I'm more selective, maybe 3 or 4 on a good night, maybe a few more on a worse night. I tend to stick in sets longer, and this lowers the number of sets you can engage with, so you have to pick sets with good potential. I call this "opportunity cost," every set you stick with, is a lost opportunity to spend that time with some other set that has greater potential.

imacarpet · 2013-01-05T21:25:44+00:00

I've been noticing this myself lately.

I don't think it's such a bad thing. I think what happens is that when you start learning, you start doing mass-approaches. At some point your social intelligence kicks back in, and tells you that what you are doing is kinda weird.

Over the last few weeks I've been going out during the daytime a lot. In that time I haven't been doing a lot of approaching. Sometimes, where I would have approached before, I don't. Something in my head stops me. I just don't feel like it.

However, in terms of percentages, I've been killing it.

When I do approach I tend to get pretty good outcomes.

I think it's partly because when I approach, I'm not doing it to satisfy any drive to become a PUA, or to impress myself or anyone. I'm not doing it to "push myself". I approach because I'm curious/attracted to the girl, and I want to connect.

I spent a little time asking myself if I was just making excuses for myself. I'm pretty certain that I'm not.

In conclusion: consider that what are experiencing might be your brains social intelligence.

Murmaider · 2013-01-05T21:39:46+00:00

I completely agree with you. I've become a lot more picky with who I invest my time/energy with.

2013-01-05T22:15:09+00:00

Yup. Totally there myself. Just pay attention and ask why you are not approaching the set. Also if your AA goes up around high quality women, you should focus on those types of women

2013-01-05T22:16:36+00:00

I just treat certain sets as practice. In a target poor environment you just make do with what you have. Never know, might find a real freak.

epsil119 · 2013-01-05T22:37:10+00:00

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SingAlong_Original · 2013-01-06T01:25:23+00:00

Man, I feel you. And I also know what you need. You're trained to have a physical connection with these girls, but you're seeking emotional connection. And the way you can achieve this is show respect, and interest and things she deeply values. In return she will show you them. It's defiantly not the type of game that haves you getting a 10 numbers on a night out. But you will get 1. And from their you can continue the relationship you want. It's hard to address it over all. Just to identify it.

Man if you need any help making sense of it just message me my friend.

pickup_sticks · 2013-01-05T20:33:43+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I don't approach just so-so women. I only approach those who are very attractive and whom I think would make a good LTR. Recently I found a good candidate so I've been focusing most of my attention on her.

Methaxetamine · 2013-01-05T22:22:06+00:00

Approaching a lot of girls will make you know what girls you don't like. Its a numbers game if you're looking at trying to find any girl to fuck you.

Look where you'd find relationship material. Probably somewhere on the street, a friend of a friend (best way to find gf material), photography club, or just not the nightlife. My gf was approached at bars and other venues, but I didn't meet her at a fucking bar. If I did I, she'd not like me, no one goes to the bar to find a gf, and if they do, at best it tends to be more fragile. The nightlife is someone for the night, and they go in with that intention and leave with it.

Title	Taking a step back: the more experience you gain in-field, the less you approach.
Author	epsil119
Upvotes	15
Comments	18
Date	January 5, 2013 7:59 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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