Does anyone have advice about going out solo?

College_Game · 2013-02-09T08:42:57+00:00

Day game. When I first started I was a trembling, stuttering fool now I can hold a decent conversation, hold eye contact and talk without fear of judgement. Also remove alcohol before you go out at night or cut down to just a few drinks. Work on your inner game.

kerbuffel · 2013-02-09T08:39:17+00:00

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ThrowawayPUA · 2013-02-09T13:55:13+00:00

Does anyone have advice about going out solo?

I advise you to go out solo. When I got serious about this, I went out solo to clubs, and yeah, it was kind of brutal. But the intensity works for you. You can open the most sets in the least time, in the best environment where women are making themselves available to be approached by strangers.

jimmyayo · 2013-02-09T20:29:32+00:00

My advice for going out solo is to open EARLY and OFTEN. Once you get to a bar or club, don't think "Okay, I'm gonna have a drink, and slowly ease into state." That will not happen. You'll get more and more inside your head. I know because I do this shit all the time, and it sucks.

Instead, start talking to random people as soon as you get there, to get more and more social and in a friendly, outgoing state. Keep it brief at first! Leave them thinking "haha that was a pretty fucking cool guy, I'd like to party w/ him later." Later on, lengthen the interactions and develop deeper rapport.

I go out solo and with wings - going solo almost always draws more results for me. YMMV, of course.

Good luck, and post the results of your experiments!

yousai · 2013-02-09T14:17:01+00:00

Make friends!

The moment you walk into a bar/club/social situation, give yourself a minute and go use an opener on someone at the bar, as you walk by a table, anyone, make it relevant to the surroundings, make it interesting and funny. You don't have to be talking specifically to girls or guys, because the moment your good energy and magnetic charm starts helping the people around you have a good time, everyone else will be drawn to you. Especially the girls. Why?

Girls just want to have fun. Guys just want to have fun. Pretty much everyone wants to have fun. Remember that fun is one of the few things in life to defy mathematical law in that it multiplies by division. Share it!

stillcole · 2013-02-09T14:21:52+00:00

Do it.

Kjm520 · 2013-02-10T01:58:00+00:00

I just typed this up in another thread somewhat relevant. I feel the same info pertains to here and might be helpful. It's a good way to engage in conversation with anyone and everyone, in any scenario, and in my experience, pretty much always works:

Like the other guy said, talk to everybody. But do this while spreading positive vibes. Don't go in and run around annoying and interrupting everyone. When you talk to someone, (pretend if you have to) to be truly interested in what they have to say.

If you don't know what to say: At least say "hey, good to see you", but focus more attention on those you want to direct the vibes. People literally can talk endlessly about themselves, so after the first sentence they say to you, respond with a question regarding something they hinted at (with true interest in what they have to say) and if they feel your interest is true, they will response with lots more information, therefore giving you lots more options of where to direct the next question, therefore continuing the conversation.

If you successfully do this in a positive true manner, with an open mind, while maintaining patience and conversational manners, people will flock to you to talk. They think they are conversing with you but in reality, they just feel good talking to you because you actually are allowing them to talk about themselves (remember, while portraying a true interest).

Oh, and don't make it obvious you are only using questions. Throw in some "ah", "yeah", "right", "oh, I see", and the such while they are emptying their minds. Occasionally reiterate what they say. And of course, give some personal input, but don't try to steal the light!

If someone is blabbing off about shit you already know about, don't stop them. Remain persistent with showing interest. But throw in some "well, what if" using knowledge/experience you already know, that will either allow them to reach a new profound conclusion (that you already know), or to throw a twist in their dialogue.

Again: spread positive vibes, maintain an open mind, create true curiosity regarding the interests of others, ask questions, BE HAPPY, and most importantly, be yourself.

Edit: oh yeah, don't overwhelm yourself trying to think of what dumb techniques you can pull or how you are acting compared to how you think you should be acting... Or anything like that. You won't have to think about this as a "technique" because its not. It's simply being open-minded, compassionate, selfless, modest, and curious. Merge all these together, and then just let it flow without thinking about it. Most people just want to be heard and understood, (how many times do people ask you about yourself?) so give them that chance. You might be surprised what you can learn from others.

reallytricky · 2013-02-09T16:27:11+00:00

My advice just go solo. I generally dont go out with a wingman, usually if that does happen then Im the wingman opening a group to a friend or something like that. I at least feel more comfortable and more in control when im going solo. Ill go out with a group of friends, but once I start sarging I leave the group and go solo. Anything you can do with a wingman you can do solo. Sometimes it can work against you as having 3 guys approach is sometimes worse than just approaching alone.

Main advice is just go out there and practice. You will get rejected and you will make closes. Time and practice will make you better at it.

Title	Does anyone have advice about going out solo?
Author	DL34
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Date	February 9, 2013 8:24 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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