First post, I'm a mess a looking for some advice.

IANAPUA_Yet · 2013-02-26T15:12:54+00:00

Escalate kino.

It's impossible for a girl to think of you platonically when you're touching her in progressively intimate ways over the course of the first couple hours. You'll win some and you'll lose some, but either way, you won't end up in no-mans-land like you are now.

KaptainKid · 2013-02-26T15:36:59+00:00

It's all about how you present yourself when they first meet you, first impressions. I have a friend who I'm trying to help out and you guys sound very similar.

Read up on the things on the sidebar (kino, shit tests, etc.) You need to run game on girls you haven't met yet, they don't have a first impression of you yet. You need to put off that you're more interested than friends quick. Be flirtatious. Be keen. Know when a girl is shit testing you.

eablokker · 2013-02-26T16:26:16+00:00

Women need to know that you're interested in them. If you have no trouble talking to women it's possible that your complete lack of anxiety is giving them a signal that you don't find them attractive or exciting. If you were attracted to them you might be more nervous. Also if women say you're too nice, it means you're putting on a false image of being an agreeable person. Probably you hide away any so-called negative emotions because you think it's only okay to be happy go lucky all the time. In fact it's healthier and more attractive to feel and express the whole range of emotions, not in a fake way, but in a this is how I really feel, deal with it, way. After all there's no way a woman can connect with you emotionally and empathize with you if you don't appear to be human. I don't know if that's your situation, but that's a common one.

throwawayomg · 2013-02-26T19:59:35+00:00

Are you a "nice guy" or just a guy that has his shit together and happens to be nice. There is a difference, I was the former and I am still working on becoming the latter. Check out the book "No More Mister Nice Guy", sounds like a recipe to becoming an asshole, but its really about living for yourself and getting what you want by being more assertive. I still enjoy being "nice" to people, but being nice and getting what you want are not mutually exclusive. I am sure you can find a pdf online if you are so inclined.

bentleymazerati · 2013-02-26T18:34:33+00:00

Shake a bit of the nice guy off and be a winner that takes what he wants. Doesn't mean you have to be rude or hated but it does mean don't get stepped on.

2013-02-26T19:15:51+00:00

Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy"

RandianHero · 2013-02-26T19:18:50+00:00

All right, so you're friendly, easy-going, and passive. Two of those things are positive traits. The last one is a drawback. Stop being passive. You're a man, your job is to lead. Women don't want a guy who puts the onus on them to make all the decisions, they want someone who can take charge. They don't want a loyal puppy who's going to follow them around to the ends of the earth, they want a confident and independent man whom they can respect.

The world does not give a shit that you're nice. Ask yourself: what do you bring to the table? Are you hilarious to be around? Are your skills impressive or necessary to others? Are you especially good in bed? Are you able to provide an insightful and dispassionate perspective on other peoples' issues? If the answer to these questions is no, and all you're providing is friendliness, then you're going to be stuck. Be someone of value, someone indispensable. Don't be someone who doesn't matter one way or another.

m4c · 2013-02-26T20:31:25+00:00

You aren't confident in yourself. Females can detect confidence and a lack thereof, so until you are confident in yourself no one else is going to be confident in you. Until you realize you're the coolest motherfucker to ever walk this earth and no one can persuade you otherwise no girl is going to be swooning over you.

jidders · 2013-02-27T09:25:11+00:00

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Title	First post, I'm a mess a looking for some advice.
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Date	February 26, 2013 2:39 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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