I can lead, get physical and make women laugh. My interactions are generally pretty solid. However, the moment my attention wavers, and I focus on my friends or another group, the girl wanders off. Am I doing something wrong, or is this just typical of night game?

BlackPride · 2013-04-08T00:20:25+00:00

What do you mean by "focus on my friends" and are you involving her in that focus, or socially abandoning her and expecting her to hang around until you "get back to her?"

dysrhythmic · 2013-04-08T02:07:49+00:00

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pre_nerf_infestor · 2013-04-08T00:25:51+00:00

You can go back to her later on in the night if you've built enough attraction, kissed, etc. You can also not shift attention, take her by the hand, etc.

DiscoButter · 2013-04-08T01:03:59+00:00

That's the thing, when you're interacting with her your attention should be at her. However, if you want to go to your friends, tell her that you have to go to your friends and tell her to find you later. If you are in a group and you're talking to her, you can give attention to the other people, but make sure not to forget her and keep escalating with her, I doubt she leaves the moment you talk to other people in the group.

DiscreteOpinion · 2013-04-08T08:13:20+00:00

You need to find ways to include her.

Think about it like music... Rests are fundamental. Without them, tension would be static and the story of music would be limited in it's ability to create an arch. If a rest is too long, if the listener doesn't have a reason to hang on the edge of their seat.. To sit with their eyes wide, as if they were begging for resolution of the moment, they think the song is over and they move on.

2013-04-08T15:52:55+00:00

It's typical of a few things: 1. How engaging you are. (comfort built, entertaining, funny, etc) 2. The number of different stimuli in the environment (if in a club, this will be high) 3. Does she have an obligation to friends that are nearby to be with them

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