Hi /r/seduction,

Warning: Wall of text incoming.

First time poster here, recent lurker. A little bit of background - I started "practicing" game a few years ago and was "decent" at it, but nothing to brag about. I got into a long term relationship which recently ended due to having different future goals and objectives, so I figure it is time for me to rebuild and expand on what I had.

This is the first field report I've ever written, so my apologies if it is done incorrectly/poorly/too long:

So it's Thursday night, and I was on vacation in Florida. I decide that I feel like doing my own thing, so I went to a fairly large nightclub that has gorgeous girls walking in and out every night that I passed by it. I've never gone to a nightclub solo before, so that in and of itself was an..interesting experience, as well as a slight confidence boost.

I get there early since I'm a dude and I read it is hard to get into some nights, there are a group of five HB 7-8.5 sitting on a bench type thing next to me. I fail and get major AA (I have no idea how to handle large groups, and am extremely uncomfortable talking to more than two girls at a time), and another guy (who I assume is practicing pickup judging by how he opened) swooped in and started talking to them. Sadly, he got shut out after about thirty seconds so I couldn't learn much, and two of the ladies' boyfriends came to sit with them.

The club doors open up at this time so I get up and go to stand in line. In front of me are a group of 7 guys, and behind me is a group of two girls (HB 6 and HB 8) as well as two guys. I'm still nervous so I don't talk to anybody other than the doormen, ask them how they're doing, big crowd expected tonight, etc, just trying to warmup my conversational skills a bit.

Finally, I get into the club, and the dance floor is relatively empty other than a couple of dudes who dance really well. I hang around the bar for an hour or so until it starts to get more crowded, and I'm already losing value since I'm scoping for small groups/single girls (at the time there weren't many, just large groups of girls or guys, most of whom were in bottle service areas). I see a group of two cute asian girls, HB 7s, and decide it's finally time to man up and approach someone. As I'm walking over, the same guy from earlier (the one who hit on the group of five girls) approaches them and starts up a convo with them. AA strikes again and causes me to just completely eject, not sure how he did but hopefully he got some for having the balls to approach.

Shortly after, a tall girl (we'll call her HB 6) comes and stands next to me, smiles, and gets up on the wall/ledge area thing I'm next to and starts dancing. She hands me her drink and tells me to drink a little (I'm a little hesitant because god knows if she drugged it or whatever, plus I'm alone, but I say screw it and drink some). Eventually she gets down and holds my hand and takes me out to the dance floor. We dance for a couple of minutes and she gives me her drink and says I look too uptight and need more, so she will go get another. Didn't see her again that night, no clue where she went.

At around 1:30am the DJ that I like started playing (half the reason I went to the club), so I finish up my drink and go out to dance a bit. In front of me are two girls and a guy, we'll say HB 6 and HB 7.5. HB 6 keeps looking back at me and smiling while dancing. They go to take a picture in front of the DJ booth, I ask them if they want me to take it for both of them, they smile and say yes please, thank you. I give HB 6 back her phone and asks where she's from (she had an accent). She says she is from Amsterdam, asks where I'm from, while keeping eye contact and dancing. We make a little more small talk and her friend leaves. I realize I am a complete idiot here, but I didn't even ask them their names. HB 6 is still dancing in front of me, just keeps looking back and smiling. Eventually (I think too late), I ask her if she wants to dance. She says yes and we dance a bit, but I don't know if grinding is "the norm" in foreign countries so I keep my distance and just do some light kino like hand on waist, shoulder, hand in hand, etc. I think she loses interest, because eventually she goes to "look for her friend". She comes back a bit later and asks me if I've seen her, but I say no and keep dancing (probably another mistake). I definitely think I could've gone further with this girl, judging by the way she kept looking at me and smiling. We made close contact a few times, but I think I have a rough time knowing if it's "ok" to escalate to the next level.

  • The part below is the part of the night I'd like the most feedback on, as I couldn't tell if she was interested or hitting on me or just making conversation because she was bored

At this point, I'm feeling a bit bummed out, but at the same time I'm a little happy that girls are approaching me. It's around 2:30am now, so the dance floor is packed. I'm near the front and the HB 8 that was standing behind me in line earlier (with her friend, and the two guys) starts dancing near me. She says hi to the guy next to me (who I assume she knows but I didn't speak to him at all), and says "Hey buddy (I forgot his name), do you know this guy?!", this guy being me. He says nope, she taps me on the shoulders and asks if I'm from here. I tell her that I'm from out of the state, she tells me she is from Ohio but stayed in New Jersey for a year. I laugh and tell her I can tell she lived in New Jersey (she talked really loud and was very hyper). We are kind of dancing in the meanwhile, a good part of the song comes on, and she grabs my arm and starts fist pumping it for me. I ask her how long she's in town for and she says for a couple of days. We keep dancing for a few seconds, and eventually a friend calls her over. This was probably the most frustrating event of the night for me - this girl seemed really cool, friendly, and was really cute, but I couldn't tell if she was hitting on me or being friendly or what.

After she left, I danced for about twenty more minutes but eventually got exhausted and left.

Things I noted:

  • I need to approach more instead of scoping out girls. I never do the three second rule, and it turns around to bite me in the ass.
  • I have a tough time being able to tell if a girl is hitting on me or just being friendly.
  • I'm a quiet guy, so being in a loud environment is tough for me.
  • I don't feel comfortable taking the leap from fun/distant dancing as compared to grinding/escalating kino beyond a hand touch/waist grab/whatever.
  • I think I could have gotten a few number or K-closes, but I'm a big pussy and end up choking every time.
  • Openers are probably my worst point, I think if I was confident enough to open, I could at least lead a conversation depending on her interest.

Thank you in advance for anyone who took the time to read this and give feedback. I apologize for the lengthy read, I just wanted to give as much detail as possible so you could properly assess the situation. I appreciate any feedback you guys can give me so that I can incorporate it this week when I go out again (hopefully not solo).