Last month I moved from the middle of nowhere to a city. I spent the last half year lurking this community and trying to develop an inner game in preparation for this sort of move, especially after finally overcoming a shitty 3+ year oneitis for a gal from college.

A lot of this is to just write down for my own benefit what I consider three successes as a direct result of what I've learned here, but feel free to comment if you want. Aside from linked articles from time to time I haven't consumed much seduction material outside this community until this week when I began reading The Game (and, yes, I'm already aware there's a lot of nonsense to throw out in there). However, at the expense of being wordy, I'm going to try to include all details which are relevant to what I learned here (I'll italicize them).

My second weekend in town I hung out with some folks I'd met on reddit (posted in local sub trying to find people with similar interests). It was a birthday party - we played some social games like Cards Against Humanity, etc. Probably about 8 or 10 people. I wasn't really there to find any girls, but I was trying to be as social as possible and put into play a lot of what I'd learned here about adding value, which I felt like I was pretty successful at. I was going to a separate event the next night and one of the girls said she was also going to be there. She was, and then afterwards we sat around chatting really late, then we decided to go get something to eat. My car still had a lot of stuff in it from moving, so asked if I could ride with her. She said sure. Then we talked pretty late into the night.

All night I'd been employing kino. At the table, our feet were touching, then our legs. I was very free with touching socially (not just her, but everyone). Afterwards in the car I let our arms touch most of the time. For years (pre-seddit) for reasons I wouldn't have been able to explain before I've done a thing with girls where I hold up my hand and say something about how they have small hands or something and without fail she'll always place her hand against mine (palms together, fingers splayed). Can't remember if I've read about that here or not, but this time I did it on purpose with kino in mind. As others have mentioned on here, seduction is a two player game, and by this time she was offering her hand to show me some marks on it or whatever. Back in the car the timing seemed as good as any, so kind of in the middle of a conversation when I felt the sexual tension was strong enough I held up my finger, interrupted her and said, "Here" and then leaned in and kissed her - and she was pretty cool with that. There was some more kissing, I got her number (she'd already written it down, had it in her pocket), and then I headed home.

We've hung out twice more since then, but she rebuffs anything beyond making out. My attraction towards her is not super strong so I think I'm friendzoning her while leaving the sexual door unlocked. I need to meet more women anyway. I'll say here that this was obviously some pretty low hanging fruit, but just starting out I'm pretty comfortable with that. The confidence boost was great, and experience is experience.

I've also made the switch in my mind when rebuffed that she is not rejecting me. She's denying herself an opportunity - therefore it's her problem, not mine. This is a huge paradigm shift from how I used to think.

Anyway, my third weekend in town I went to a club. I've never been to a club before, and only one or two bars, and I was going solo so I just worked off what I've read here and made everything else up on the spot. Someone recently posted about going to a club and spending the first hour just dancing by himself to warm up for the night. That wasn't exactly what I did (or at least I wasn't dancing the way I pictured our fellow sedditor was), but I thought it was more or less good advice so I put myself on the dance floor and tried to follow Hitch's dance advice. It was better than nothing. There were a couple of girls there, 5's - 7's mostly with maybe one or two 8's kind of on the other end of the dance floor, but I must have gotten there kind of early because it was pretty empty. I'm going to skip a lot of the boring to read shit and get to the part maybe an hour later where I was feeling a lot more comfortable with myself, though the scene hadn't changed much. I'd gotten out of my shell by then and was just dancing having a good time, when one of the 8's I'd mentioned before pretty much just came right up to me and started grinding on me. I have no idea if she was just messing with me or what - who knows - but I went right along with it, then spun her around behind me, and just kinda took charge making things up. She laughed quite a bit, as I don't think she was expecting any of that (just some guy barely dancing and by himself in a corner of the floor), but I really went all out and just got crazy with her which cracked her and her friends up. Another huge confidence boost, and I'm not gonna lie - that was the finest ass I'd ever had in my hands.

The night went out and eventually the place more or less filled up. Once there were a lot more people on the floor I spent a lot of time just roaming around and finding the odd girl or two, grabbing their hands, and doing some crazy dance type stuff with them. Most of them were just in small sets with their friends and seemed to really like it that some random guy came up and started dancing with them.

By that time in the night I'd decided that all I was trying to do was add value - the gals that I danced with, I wanted them to have a better night than they would have if I'd not danced with them. I felt hugely successful at this. Easily half a dozen girls I'd say I completely made their night, just being stupid and crazy and not caring what people thought, helping other people get out of their shells, dancing up on the stage on my own, etc. etc. I was no longer there for what I could get, but for what I could give.

There was no closing that night - just finding, meeting, and attracting, but it was good for me.

Last night I went back to the same club, and for whatever reason (non-holiday weekend?) it was noticeably emptier and it seemed like the place topped out at 6's and 7's. I didn't dance as much, but instead went outside on a balcony area and opened a 5-set of gals. It's funny - I don't even remember what I opened with, and I don't think it even mattered. I just pulled up a chair and sat down. One of them was wearing a tiara. I asked her if it was her birthday and she said, no, that she was getting married. I'd found a bachelorette party. Well, one of them was getting married, and three of them already were, so that's not really what I am looking for in gals, but they seemed to be a lot more fun then what was going on inside so I just bulshitted with them for like an hour.

I've learned that I can be way too self-serious, and need to do a lot more bulshitting. I'm actually pretty good at being outrageous and outlandish, it's already second nature to me, but I need to make tapping into it a subconscious habit rather than a conscious decision. That's something I'd been thinking about all day so thought this was a great time to practice.

After awhile two of them went home, and then the groom/groomsmen showed up from wherever they'd been, and I hunt out a little more before going in and dancing a little. Nothing had improved inside, but I thought the break was appropriate. Oh yeah, and I'd talked the bride and one of the other gals into coming in and dancing with me earlier, but it was just for one song and then we went back outside. Anyway, some time passed, bla bla bla, and I went back outside. It was just the three girls and the guys came and went for awhile. This time I was seated next to the single gal so I made sure to have a lot of leg kino going on (she was also getting tipsy, but practice is practice). We were talking about different stuff to do around town since I'd just moved here. It was kind of funny because the bride-to-be was pretty tipsy herself and by this time almost every time she'd say anything to me she'd lean across the table and touch my arm or put her hand on mind. I went along with that, because, again, anything in the field is good for me, but I didn't have any intentions with her as she was fixing to get married and the guy was around somewhere - still I found it hilarious, enjoyed it, and gave some kino feedback without doing anything dumb.

She said she wanted to tell me all the stuff to do around town and did I have a pen so I could write down her email address? I said no, but she could put it in my phone, so I gave her my phone and she put her number in instead. Mind you, I think this was completely harmless, and I'm not going to try to hook up with some freshly married chick, but with all the pieces on the board I still wanted to do my best to play the game, so to get field experience and prove that all this stuff works the way I read it worked. I was pretty happy with it all.

Eventually the whole party was leaving except the single gal, who was going to wait for her boyfriend to pick her up cause arguably she shouldn't have been driving (single as in unmarried, but the bride had told me this gal was gonna be breaking up with her boyfriend soon). They asked if I'd look after her until she showed up, and I said sure. We talked a little more and mostly I just let her talk about herself (which was worth hearing). A couple of minutes before the place was gonna close I pointed out that they'd be kicking us out soon and "how can we stay in touch?" I asked. And perfectly scripted she replied, "I can give you my number." So I handed her my phone and she put her number in there, too.

I walked her back to the parking garage where she was parked, and it was gonna be some time before her boyfriend showed up (he called a couple times and she ignored the calls), so I stuck around and chatted for awhile and left before the conversation dried up/the boyfriend show - always leave them wanting more. Before I left I tapped my cheek and said, "Kiss goodnight?" and she obliged (I've kissed a few girls in my time, but not sure I'm comfortable crossing the line with girls who have boyfriends, whether their relationship is on the rocks or not - maybe later, I don't know).

Again, I know a lot of this was low hanging fruit and there was alcohol involved (not on my end), but I'm a square one newb, so try not to be too harsh about any of that.

This was super fucking long, and I don't expect anyone at all to read the whole thing, but if you read any of it and have any comments, by all means make them. I'm really brand new to this stuff, in my upper 20's, average looking guy (for real, not being modest), but I've consumed a lot of material on here already and am not going to sit on my ass internalizing everything when I could be field testing to find out what's me and what isn't. I'm planning to go to a new place tonight and see what else is out there (I'd really like to find a place with better music).

Oh, one more thing. All the bachelorette gals were wearing these stretchy bracelet things, and I asked if I could have one (just being dumb). The bride gave me two. I put them and the paper with the first girls' number (from the first FR) in a box - I thought it might be nice to have a little memento/trophy type box that I can collect things in, then if I'm ever feeling at the bottom of my game I can open that box and see and pick up real, tangible evidence that this stuff is real, that this is who I am, that women want the same thing I want.