How can I lose the "she's way out of my league" attitude?

Smegmachine · 2013-10-01T21:09:57+00:00

Remember: She has explosive diarrhea too. Remember she is only human

arcalumis · 2013-10-02T03:09:21+00:00

You should read this post by Rollo Tomassi.

In a deeply cynical and counter-intuitive way, you are playing right into a woman's hands when you avoid initiating contact with her because you presume that she's "out of your league."

Women want alpha fucks and beta bucks. What do I mean by that? Women want to fuck the alpha guy while the beta guy who subsidizes her lifestyle sits at home watching Fringe re-runs. Alpha guys have confidence and know what they want, beta guys don't. This is why alpha guys get to go home with the girls at the end of the night while the beta guys are left with paying the bar tabs from buying drinks for said girls all night in the vain hope of getting laid.

Doubting yourself to such an extent that you avoid contact with a woman is, arguably, the epitome of beta behavior. So when you do that, you are deciding for the woman that you are a beta and therefore not worth her time.

Think about that. You're doing her job for her. You've just rejected yourself and cleared the way for an alpha to come along and grab her.

Let her figure out why she won't fuck you, don't do it for her.

ppvknifefight · 2013-10-01T21:36:22+00:00

Helping me get over that way of thinking was the best thing Patrice O Neal ever did for me. Everybody might not agree to this approach, but its the only one that has worked for a hard case like myself.

Like Patrice, i don't like little mind games like "think of her pooping." instead of the little tricks like that, we go full throttle in the other direction : we simply believe... that deep down in our souls... that there's just no woman alive better than us, simply because we are MEN.

That's it. Anything else is just mental masturbation. Go full masculine with it.

JonnyFrost · 2013-10-01T20:57:42+00:00

If there is no point in approaching her then it seems that you don't feel you've got any value to give.

You're also not being outcome independent. You should be able to talk to her simply because you want to meet her, not because of what you want from her.

2013-10-02T19:53:44+00:00

I think i am ugly, and people often tell me i'm ugly. But when i see an woman i'm interested in, i just think: Not talking to her wont make me any more attractive, or make feel better of myself. I might as well do it. I just jump in. I don't care how good looking she is, she is just as human as i am. This thought process helps me get decent luck with the ladies.

2013-10-02T01:00:19+00:00

Imagine a girl you've known forever and pretend it's her. Make no big deal out of it. Act casual. If you click you click (which you won't if you're nervous) so take the pressure off and treat her like a life-long friend.

Vendetta425 · 2013-10-02T04:21:51+00:00

Remember that you are the prize.

Rollo-Tomassi · 2013-10-02T15:16:27+00:00

Read this: http://therationalmale.com/2012/01/05/a-league-of-your-own/

The latent function of ‘leagues’ is to encourage men to filter themselves out for women’s intimate approval.

2013-10-02T10:58:25+00:00

Imagine her taking a giant shit on the toilet. Face red, veins popping, the works.

Attila_TheHipster · 2013-10-02T11:50:02+00:00

They're only people. Meeting new people all the time makes it easier to empathize with them, get into their mindset. So this attitude & AA are both solved by consistently approaching.

joshsway · 2013-10-02T13:00:30+00:00

If you really think you are handsome interesting and witty then you should have no problems overcoming this issue. Those are three important traits that most women want.

Jessie_James · 2013-10-02T14:31:54+00:00

Two things come to mind:

"Pretty girl syndrome". There are plenty of very attractive women out there who are not approached very often because of guys thinking like you do. I've met plenty of women who say (and believe) that they've never been hit on. (The reality is, of course, they have, but not in a way that they realized it because the guy probably never asked them on a date.)

"Date to disqualify". When you meet a woman, make small talk and get to know her a little if you can. When you do, you may quickly (hopefully) find out she is not someone who you want to be with. There are plenty of women out there who have nasty habits, unfavorable personality traits, or life issues that you want nothing to do with. I've met women who smoke a pack a day, only want to be with me if I spend money on them, or have a psycho cop ex-boyfriend who beats up any guy she is seen with, are living in their ex-boyfriends mothers basement, won't have sex until they are married (so they say), only want to have sex so they can get pregnant so they lie to you about BC, are trying to make their boyfriend (or ex BF who just dumped her) jealous, or on and on. Some never want to go out and stay at home watching TV all day, live in a pig stye, and plan on gaining tons of weight right after they marry some sucker. (Those are all real examples I've encountered.)

Women are not magically wonderful creatures. Some are really messed up and you should want nothing to do with them. Remember that when you meet them, and find out who they really are.

nomorefapforme88 · 2013-10-02T15:00:12+00:00

you dont need to be great to start, you need to start to be great !!

Title	How can I lose the "she's way out of my league" attitude?
Author	gallez
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Date	October 1, 2013 8:12 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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