Depressed guy, feeling beyond self-disciplined help. Feeling like I don't matter at all and will never have a path forward.

t_jones730 · 2018-10-28T03:45:14+00:00

You are searching externally for answers, seeking understanding and enlightenment on a cognitive level. You’ve read and watched videos. But what you haven’t decided to do yet is apply what you’ve learned. Time to eliminate your data absorption and work on your internal foundation.

It’s time to put what you know into practice, to use what is already in your brain and form a plan of action and do it, modifying as you go. You will fail, but you will learn and become more efficient with every failure.

You honestly know what you need to do. You may be telling yourself you’re lost so you don’t have to take responsibility for falling when it happens. Accept that the path forward will be rocky and it will be difficult. This is life. But rewards scatter the path, each increasing as you grow.

Life is not as hopeless as you think it is. Remember that it is your perception of life that gives you pain, not life itself.

Just think. You say it could be better.

It could be so much worse. Be grateful for your current status and the opportunity for a path forward.

You know what to do. Time to do it, work on making it a habit until it is, and move to the next thing. Everything you gain is a brick to your foundation. You can’t build a house reading a book on how to build it. Eventually you have to lay the bricks.

But if you want to come from a nihilistic perspective, none of us really matter. If that’s the case, then there is freedom. Nothing matters. And if nothing matters, then what matters is what we choose to matter. And we can rest assured that it’s an illusion, but a conscious illusion, a tool to move us forward because the alternative is nothing. You can shed the pressure of being great as perceived by society, and simply be whatever matters to you, and do what you know it takes to get there. Take the next step beyond nihilism and make a choice. Because that’s what this is. A conscious decision to pave a path vs remaining frozen in nihilistic inaction. You don’t have to have motivation for that. It’s just a dry, calculated decision.

Then after a time you’ll find that you’re in a different spot that you were when you made that decision, and can enjoy the results as they come after the work is done. You don’t get to eat the fruit you never planted and harvested.

This is coming from someone who feels the same as you. We have good days and bad days. When you give it your best shot you feel good, proud. When you do nothing, you feel bad. Do something, and take steps, don’t try running before you can walk. Each step forward is a success. Each step backward is simply a temporary setback.

EramSumEro · 2018-10-28T03:04:30+00:00

Give us more details op. Are you a recent college grad? Living at home? Fat? Tell us why you hate yourself at this point in your life.

NASCARnormie · 2018-10-28T03:26:59+00:00

everyone is going to give you some coventional normie advice. Life begins with pain and ends in pain. It's about struggling and adapting to the stress. Also, your probably an atheist as well so you also lack a metaphysical basis in your life.

masterpiece00 · 2018-10-28T07:29:58+00:00

Get off reddit and other social media, turn off your devices and read a book in the sun.
Jordan Peterson is a meme, take what he says with a grain of salt.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-10-28T08:44:21+00:00

Clean up your room. Or apartment or house. Wherever you you live. Clean it up.

Then come back.

ba77ab · 2018-10-28T02:19:03+00:00

Get out of bed. And go and fucking lift. Now.

FieldLine · 2018-10-28T03:23:50+00:00

Depression is fundamentally a physical problem, not a mental or emotional one.

letsbiohackslaves · 2018-10-28T05:18:53+00:00

Try magic mushrooms. Go check your health. Blood tests. Vitamins. Hormones. Testosterone. Its likely that your health is fucked up trust me, I was at the same place until i was diagnosed with low testosterone and some bacterial infections and low iron levels.

derrtderr · 2018-10-28T02:20:35+00:00

Pushups!!

Trip-trader · 2018-10-28T05:37:10+00:00

Long term depression sufferer here.

Sleep is a huge part of many depression symptoms, make sure your going to bed and getting 8 hours a night. No phones before bed or use night mode to cut blue light.
You could be low on vitamin D which would give you shut sleep quality. Get on 3000 IU a day just Incase.
You should like you need medication. When your this low your brain is unwell and exercising feels 10x harder than normal as your brain chemistry is all screwed up. Try a SSRI, give it multiple months to balance out and start exercising as soon as you can. Just start small hold. “Today I’ll go for 20 min walk outside”. Then increase it every couple of days.
Put in positive things, like watching inspiring YouTube videos (Be inspired YouTube is good).

Exercise, quality sleep, eat good food not junk, get some sun and be in nature. Get on meds if you need just stay off SNRI’s they are evil meds. And set some new goals.

This is a temporary condition bro, you’ll be out of this in a few months and feeling good again. Try to make some small changes daily for the better. Good luck.

Title	Depressed guy, feeling beyond self-disciplined help. Feeling like I don't matter at all and will never have a path forward.
Author	bf1bro18
Upvotes	5
Comments	22
Date	October 28, 2018 2:08 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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