How to be funny?

Christian_Shepard · 2013-10-13T21:02:20+00:00

Its not a scientific thing, what do you find funny? As long as it isn't jokes about killing animals or something you are going to have to rely on your own sense of humor to be funny.

FallenComrades · 2013-10-13T21:29:51+00:00

Being funny is actually like being seductive in many ways. Obviously, people can be funny or seductive by trying, but those who are the most successful are the ones who don't have to try. I'm not saying the one who are success don't try, I'm saying they don't have to try. So let me explain.

Since I was in elementary school, I wanted to be the funny guy. In conversations with people, I would try to think ahead of what should I say next. What would be funny? (Very similar to people poor with seduction try to plan ahead everything they are going to say or do to impress a girl/guy). And sometimes it works. However most of the time, the comment will come off awkward or you can't think of anything to say (which can cause your confidence to take a blow - you were trying to say something clever and couldn't).

Then one day in high school, when I was out with my brother and friends. One of my friends said something and I replied with the first thing that came off the top of my head. My friends laughed, but my brother told me I was an idiot, that the joked sucked. Then right in front of me, my friends tore my brother down and said he had no sense of humor. And from that, being funny became so obvious.

Right there, I was funny because I didn't have to try. I said the first thing that came to my mind and didn't care. I was confident and in my zone (like how people are when they succeed in seduction).

But also notice, not everyone laughed. My brother thought I was an idiot and that's okay. This is because humor is like seduction (just so much more low risk). You won't make everyone laugh (you won't seduce every girl) since everyone has their own sense of humor. And that's okay.

In continuing with the story, I didn't make many more jokes the rest of that outing. But that was okay. Like in seduction, you don't have to constantly impress people. You do one memorable thing, and that can be enough. And since then people have considered me the funny guy in any group.

So I hope that story gives some context. For those who find that too long, here is the tl;dr with some other tips:

How to be funny:

From the story above, these are the fundamentals:

(1) Don't try to be funny. Be yourself and say what comes to your mind. Those who are funny are those who don't have to try.
(2) Not everyone will laugh. Everyone has a different sense of humor. You want to be around people who laugh at what you laugh at.
(3) You don't always have to be funny. If nothing is coming to you to say, then NOT TODAY. It's okay, there will be plenty of days

Once you have those 3 down, you have to refine your humor based on the school of humor you like. There are two schools:

(1) Stand-up / Story Teller: People love to here stories. Figure out some things people would find interesting that you have done. Tell them. As you do, you will see what parts people find funny and then you can empathize them.
(2) Improv: These are the people who learn how to tell jokes based on what people say. They are the ones who make the witty or clever remarks.

Overall, both schools are important to train from. The stand-up school lets you lead and control conversations while being funny. The improv school lets the other person talk and you make funny comments in return.

For beginners, it is easier to start in the stand-up school. By gauging reactions, you can learn what it funny and the types of comments your funny friends makes in response (it gives you an arena to learn improv).

Lastly, give yourself material. Do things so you have stories or can make clever references. The more you do, the better you are and the more you can draw on to have an arsenal jokes. So relax. I'm sure your not since you were reading this and laugh. You'll be there one day.

~ From a guy who his friends have called the funniest guy they know for the last 6 years.

HappyJerk · 2013-10-13T22:11:04+00:00

IF you're serious about being funny, go to a stand up open mike or take an improv class. It's fun, it's a great way to get rid of social anxiety, and you meet hot/cool chicks.

Philosophers have written entire volumes of what makes a joke "funny" but here is a brief analysis:

1) Point out the absurdity of a situation (that's what most stand up is) 2) Make the listener feel superior (making fun of people) 3) Say an honest truth that is not "socially acceptable"

Etc...

bigfike · 2013-10-14T00:12:57+00:00

This thread is pretty funny

Zeekology · 2013-10-14T01:04:34+00:00

Just be yourself!

Fallio · 2013-10-14T01:13:32+00:00

I would reccomend High Status Humor. Its a system that teaches you how to use humor to pick up women while not lowering your status. It's been really useful for me and combined with "Inner Game" programs like Models by Mark Manson and David DeAngelo's Deep Inner Game it can make you unstopable. The best part for me is that I've been able to apply it to my professional life as well.

"Its not the grades you make, it's the hands you shake."

2013-10-13T21:24:18+00:00

You are either funny, or you are not.

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