Contrary to what some douchebags in the PUA community say, oneitis sucks. True oneitis, as in, the kind you get when you’ve been dating somebody for a while and they summarily reject you, is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. You lose your appetite, you become depressed, and you constantly ruminate over what you did wrong and how to get her back. You start to have insane thoughts and you literally feel like the world turned its back on you. It literally feels like hell: you feel like nothing else matters and nothing will be good again until you get her back. Oneitis ruins peoples lives all the time.

Part of the reason oneitis is so irrational and crazy is that it is a biological reaction in your body. And mostly, it is just anxiety: anxiety that you will never find somebody again, anxiety that you got rejected from somebody you love, anxiety that something is just WRONG.
That’s why a lot of people drink or smoke weed after break-ups; it reduces their anxiety for a short while.

Now, here is another fact: SCIENCE has proven that women suffer TWICE AS MUCH ANXIETY as men. It’s because of the chemicals in their brains. Think about that: twice as much! That means women get TWICE AS MUCH ONEITIS as men, and when a woman gets oneitis, its twice as bad. Think about the worst oneitis you’ve ever had and multiply it by two: it’s hell. Women’s oneitis is worse for a variety of other reasons as well.

Another reason that women’s oneitis get worse oneitis than men is that women are naturally attracted to alpha males, which also happen to be the guys that care least about them. In fact, part of the definition of an alpha male is a guy who doesn’t care about a particular girl because he can get any girl he wants. So women are stuck in an awful catch-22: the guys that they are most attracted to are also the guys that give them the worst oneitis. Because women are wired in this fucked up way, society has tried to protect them by making all these rules that force men to supplicate to women (i.e., give up some of their alphaness) before they can fuck them – this is so women don’t fuck guys that end up leaving and them and giving them oneitis. Unfortunately, those social rules are falling away so women are losing their last layer of protection.

So women live in a catch-22: one on hand they want to meet guys, get in relationships, and have sex. On the other hand, they want to avoid the insane, crippling oneitis they get. This is made difficult by the fact that women are constantly getting approached by all kinds of attractive, rich, “alpha” males, that are promising to be their boyfriends. So what do women do? Well, here is the plan that a lot of women have:

1) Find a “safe” boyfriend and take away his alpha-ness. This way, they still get sex, affection, etc…, but they don’t have that insane attraction that gives them oneitis when the boyfriend leaves.

2) If they ever encounter an “alpha” male, they shit test the alpha male until he loses his alpha-ness. This way the women is not attracted to him any longer, and he is no longer a threat to give her oneitis.

3) If the alpha male passes the shit test and she is still attracted to him, she tries to trick him into confessing that he likes her. When he does this, instead of reciprocating (Oh, I like you too), they use this as an opportunity to reject the guy. That way, no fear of oneitis! How can a girl get oneitis when SHE rejected the guy?

Now you may be thinking: why would a woman reject a perfectly good guy she liked just out of fear of oneitis? This is what you have to understand: Oneitis is the worst feeling in the world; you literally feel like you are in the depths of hell. No matter how much she “likes” you, her fear of oneitis is stronger, so she doesn’t even want to risk that. Women end up dating guys not because they are “good” for them, but because they ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO DATE THEM because they can’t resist their alphaness. It’s a sad story, but most women can’t control their emotions (for long).

You see, women aren’t happy about the fact that they are attracted to alpha males. Alpha males are literally the worst guys for women because they don’t give a fuck about them. In a perfect world, women would just find a boyfriend that was nice, respectable, clean, but not an “alpha” that would get their heart racing and then leave all of a sudden. The problem is, women have an insane attraction to alpha males that they can’t resist – and this often leads to horrible oneitis. Women’s only defense is to neuter these alpha males so they are no longer a threat. This is why a woman will reject a guy she “likes” – she may like everything about him (good looking, friendly, nice car, etc…), but she is afraid of oneitis so if she has the opportunity to reject him she will.

In societies where traditional marriage is stronger women are more submissive, because they know that if they let themselves be attracted to the alpha male he is not going to up and leave one day, because he literally can’t.

What’s the solution? If you’re the guy, you have to engender a mild oneitis in the girl. You have to pass her shit tests, and not let her reject you. That’s why PUAs advise setting up dates by saying things like “I’m at X bar, come join!” because that kind of sentence literally does not allow her to reject you – you are already at the bar having fun. She is only rejecting herself.

I know this is stuff we all know already, but I got really high and I thought that this might be a good explanation as to why this is. Thoughts?