[Beginner] First date ever

herpty_derpty · 2013-10-30T00:17:27+00:00

You've got ladies LITERALLY throwing their numbers at you. I am beyond envious.

And dinner isn't a great first date idea for talking, and the movies is even worse. Go for coffee, drinks, or a walk.

rohannibal · 2013-10-30T01:40:31+00:00

Just my two cents. Keep it light, keep it casual. Take her someplace you're comfortable being. If you're nervous or not a talker, then take her some place with a lot of distractions. Perhaps an arcade, aquarium, somewhere you'll have activities to do, things to see, stuff to talk about. If you can't think of anywhere, just tell her she gets to choose where to go "this one time" and the balls in her court then. Lastly, if she doesn't live close I'd say ask her to meet you somewhere. This is just in case it doesn't go so well, you don't want to be stuck on an awkward ride to drop her off. Good luck!

Pit_Sweat · 2013-10-30T01:43:00+00:00

First off, congrats and I'm sure you two are going to have a great time. Second, I agree that dinner/movie is not suitable for a first date, especially with a girl whom you literally know nothing about. Movies do not let you get to know each other at all, and dinner is too formal/too stigmatized plus you have that awkward "eating in front of each other for the first time" thing which is its own set of problems.

My advice is to think outside the box. Coffee/tea is always a safe option, but you could also do something like "hey, it's a beautiful day wanna join me for a walk in the park?" or something like that. If you have a dog you can bring it along (if she agrees) so that you guys can have a distraction when the conversation dies down. Stuff like that. Any place that you would normally go to hang out with your friends would be an option.

loganal · 2013-10-30T03:58:11+00:00

So, I'm at university also, and I'm about to ask a girl on a date. I am going to take her for coffee on a first date to establish comfort and see how things will go. then the second date is frozen yogurt, escalation, movie at my place, get my kiss on. envision your success and you shall have it

RealPharaoh · 2013-10-31T07:23:27+00:00

UPDATE Well, in case anyone was wondering, it went absolutely great. We met at a coffee shop near her work and literally talked until the shop closed and then out even more outside by her car. It was something like 6.5 hours and neither of us wanted to leave afterwards. We both felt so comfortable. At first, I was a little nervous because I barely even recognized her and I was still a bit nervous (I don't know if it's always slightly awkward at the beginning of first dates), but overall it was fantastic. Thanks for all the help guys. I used a lot of other tips I've learned from this subreddit as well and they definitely helped a ton.

d4rkd34th4 · 2013-10-30T01:14:50+00:00

good luck!

hilldawgexperience · 2013-10-30T15:04:19+00:00

Definitely coffee and drive yourselves! Nothing more creepy than a guy that's anxious to get you into his car!

el_Technico · 2013-10-30T05:40:29+00:00

Is this a be attractive don't be unattractive moment or did you do something to catch her attention ? Wow, just wow.

Whatever you did, great job OP !

UntoldLegend · 2013-10-30T10:26:22+00:00

Good date spots are places like a driving range, mini golfing, activities that don't require too much effort and allow space to talk and take things easy. Especially if its before dinner time it allows you to keep it low key and keep some pressure off of the date. I generally keep movie and dinner till maybe the 3rd date. Especially since you two have not talked, you need time to talk and see if you are even compatible.

SupALupRT · 2013-10-30T20:54:24+00:00

Do something fun man. Going out for drinks is ok. Bowling is actually surprisingly fun and has GREAT kino opportunities.

HappyJerk · 2013-10-30T00:26:50+00:00

I know you guys say dinner and movies are 2 bad ideas, but I feel like meeting up for a dinner to talk would be a decent idea.

So you know that everybody says that dinner is a bad idea, but you want to do it anyway? Why? Why are you even asking for advice if you're going to reject it?

Dinner is way too formal for a first date. You should go somewhere to get drinks. Invite her to a nice bar and sit next to her on a bar stool. Start some touching, talk about deep shit, and be positive and cool.

Title	[Beginner] First date ever
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Date	October 29, 2013 11:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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